Over the years, I’ve realized that nobody in the world knows me better than myself. I believe it is the same for everyone else. We know ourselves more than anyone does because we’re the ones living our lives. However, we’re so quick to listen to what people say or think about us.
Some of us are living our lives in a certain way because of certain things we’ve heard people say about us. Most of us have given up certain dreams just because of that particular comment we heard someone say somewhere. The funny part is, that person who made that remark about you probably didn’t even have the audacity to say it right in front of you but you still let it get to you.
Listen to me, until someone walks to your face to tell you something constructively, whatever you hear about you “somewhere” should be invalid. There are a lot of people walking around with withered confidence which can be traced back to one terrible rumor with no credibility. There are a lot of people who don’t even believe in themselves anymore just because of that one word someone said about them.
It’s very different if you have an honest person constructively criticizing you because they want the best for you. Other than that, I don’t see why we should let people talk down on our abilities. Of course, there are days we don’t do our best but as I said earlier, when that happens you will already know because you know yourself more than anyone else. When that happens, any other side comment about you becomes a bonus and a stairwell for you to walk into the path of self development.
During my first degree, one of my favourite lecturers explained one of his life theories and I grabbed onto it. When someone says you have a big head and you know you don’t have a big head you don’t have to care. Why? Because you know yourself more than anyone else and obviously that statement is very false so what again? Now, if someone says you have a big head and you know you have a big, two things happen.
Already, you know you have a big head and it’s not something you can change so that comment won’t be any news to you. Alternatively, even if you already know and it’s something you can work on, find a way to transform that comment to fuel your actions into making your head small. The mistake you might want to avoid is dwelling on that comment to shrink your confidence. That’s you allowing people to get to you which is so wrong.
I’m yet to meet anyone who is perfect. We all aren’t. You’re doing a great job and you should give yourself some credit for what you can do. If you look back some years ago and compare it to now, I bet you’d say wow for how far you have come. So yes! People can talk down on you and say whatever they want but don’t you dare let it get to you in anyway. Except their opinions pay your bills.
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