Hello, dear Steemians!
Shame is like an infection. If you do not treat it, it will turn into a devastating wound. If you somehow survive the wound, it will fester deep in your heart and wait for the perfect opportunity to strike again.
The idea that we are flawed and make mistakes, or might be able to make mistakes, creates the feeling of shame in our mind. Shame might also come with other insecurities, for instance a refusal to accept belonging or deeming one’s self unworthy of love.
In time, shame will turn into your biggest enemy when it comes to decision-making and actually taking steps to change or improve your life.
The more you pressure shame into hiding in the corners of your mind, or ignore its existence altogether, the more power and influence it will have on your life. You merely think that you have destroyed it, but the thoughts will always be with you.
Emotions can often be destructive. When you are too sensitive, you are prone to everybody and everything hurting you in a way.
The most destructive and harmful emotion is shame, because it is also the most obscured and hidden due to its very nature. We hide shame, and we hoard the pain of shame with all the power we possess.
The only true way to rid yourself of shame, once and for all, is to confront it before it has time to settle in the depths of your very existence.
When you feel shame, you focus on the result of your supposed inadequacy. When you feel guilt, you are acknowledging that you have done something wrong. There is a huge difference between shame and guilt.
Shame is indifferent, and it also presents itself as inevitable, undeniable, and invulnerable.
You begin to think that you cannot do anything to change it, whereas guilt comes with acceptance; the idea that you indeed have done something wrong and now you can find a way to atone for it.
You can think and plan, while all shame does for you is hurt your feelings and destroy your self-confidence. Because while guilt comes with embarrassment or humiliation, shame comes with the denial of grace and self-confidence.
You can always get over embarrassment, but you cannot get over the idea that you may be worthless.
It may be difficult, but the only thing you can do is talk about your shame. First with yourself, then with those who are in your confidence and can always relate to you on a deeper and more profound level of comprehension and understanding.
Think about what it is that brings you shame.
Do not be afraid to face it. Is it a past memory?
Is it something you have done to someone else?
It is your own shortcoming? Is it something that might not have been your fault in the first place?
Define what brings you shame. It might be difficult to do, but if you do it, you will find peace at the end of the road.
After that, talk to the people closest to you.
Share with them and talk about the pain that you are going through as a result of that shame. Talk about all the insecurities and the dilemmas that shame has brought to you.
Counsel with them, and see what advice they have in store for you.
Even after reading this, you may be tempted to hide your shame and pay no heed to it.
But trust me, my friends, in time, that shame will swallow you whole and leave nothing but a carcass of who you should have been and what you should have done.
Face your shame, as hard as it might be, and come out victorious from the vicious battle that ensues!
A BIG HUG!
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Important Note!
I have been working very hard on this blog since the beginning. I have a very busy life but I am giving my best and believe me I have shared experiences that I have been coaching thousands of people and I know that the change of the Mindset should be daily. I am already grateful to see you giving upvotes to each other and you can see this with the fact that many already have 8, 9, 10 upvotes. But I'm sure that with the effort of all of us we will see a community with, 40, 50 upvotes and for that everyone should get engaged so we can make it come true. I believe and we can! Resteem...
***Remember Community: Please, if you commented and upvote on a new post I did, please always go back to the previous one because if someone in the community commented lastly because of time zone differences it will be without your upvote and that would not be fair.
You all know the goal! We can reach: 50+ Upvotes each others!
Attention!!!
I'm reading all the meaningful comments from the posts.
I am here making a list of all of you who have helped build this community by voting for each other who write meaningful comments and soon I will respond to everyone with comment and thank you all because I can already see this spirit being built in this Positive Mindset community and help between all of you.
You will receive my upvote in all material and brief comments I will do this in all the posts I am following very closely and I can see what the people who are generous and contribute to this legacy that I am trying to build with all of you can become reality in a short time.
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First of all, I would like to thank all of you, who are the most active and proactive in this community, showing your generosity and always with meaningful comments. From now on I will always make a list of these incredible people who have helped to expand our goal of growing ever more.
But I ask that if you are new around here you read many of the previous posts because they make it clear that we are building a community with respect among all, generosity and this blog is for those who really want to start moving their Mindset to positive and moreover be part of the growth of all of us who contribute to this blog. Please do not ask to include you in the list if you are just wanting upvotes because we want here people genuinely attuned to growth and good attitudes and as I have always said with Respect as the basis of all, generosity and positivity!
ABOUT OUR LIST!!! WE NEED GROW THIS LIST! LET'S GO TOGETHER IN THIS COMMUNITY - RESTEEM!
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