RE: Bad Girl

This was such a real and straightforward post that I appreciated and resonated with.

I have been a witness to this group conformity since I was in grade school…because I too was apart of them. I had to always belong to a clique at school. We had rules to follow and if someone got out of line they were confronted. If someone invited anyone into the group without group approval they suffered the consequences. Now when I look back on these things I see how ridiculous it was and still is. Where are those group members now? Well once I start expressing my beliefs and faith they slowly started departing from me.

that the moment I start conforming to what others want, behaving in ways that are in opposition to who I am, I become absolutely miserable

@Nineclaws I’m the same way. Once I realized this in my early twenties I changed the way I did things. I broke away from the normality of pleasing everyone and trying to prove myself (credit to the Lord for the strength He gave me). I no longer conform but instead stand up for what I believe and no one can change that. If they don’t like it they keep it movin. 😄

I think it’s smart to stay guarded and only loosen that guard once you’re sure of someone. I’m the same way with this too. After being done a certain way so many times it’s almost an automatic defense mechanism that happens. Treading carefully in this day and age is what everyone should do.

I really enjoyed reading this. The evidence is all around but as you said one can only see if they’re willing to look. Back then I didn’t want to see the truth because the feeling of belonging felt so good. It wasn’t until I realized my worth that I finally saw that I didn’t have to prove myself to anyone or any group.