Pity is not something I accept; I take ownership of my actions and that means I look at adversity less as a challenge and more as an opportunity. It's a fine line, but that ethos helps me do what's required. I've had some tough times, there is no doubt, but I'm alive, and until I'm not I'll refuse to crumble.
People like that makes it hard to trust people with things.
Trusting people doesn't come easy for me. They begin from zero and have to earn it which can take a long time. Losing my trust can be instantaneous though.
RE: Rebuilding