Many people believe that talking about problems and confronting them head on is the best way to deal with them. It's the 101 of therapy. They say you should discuss your deepest fears, concerns, and pains. They claim it is primarily a healing and coping mechanism. This also works, but humans are far too complex for textbook plans to be effective on everyone.
I was watching a reality TV show about a retired soldier looking for a place to live after retiring from the army. He was adamant about not living near people or having modern technology around. I watched the way he spoke, and he seemed to have seen and experienced a lot. His real estate agents appeared to criticize his house choices, but they were unlikely to understand everything he had gone through. Being in the army would have probably messed him up, and he would have most likely chosen isolation to deal with what he went through.
"Ignorance is bliss" is a cliche that is not always understood.
Not knowing about many things; being in the dark, unaware, or not "in the know" is frequently underestimated, and sometimes the things we know are the source of our pain. Now, choosing not to know something does not mean it does not exist. Some people are frequently labeled as cowards or living in denial.
The majority of people who have chosen to live in denial are those who are unable to deal with things by going through them, which is due to the fact that everyone is built differently. People frequently believe that therapy is the best place to go when they are in pain, but the truth is that therapy consists primarily of talking to a complete stranger about something they do not know, cannot relate to, and have not experienced themselves.
However, I am not saying it does not work; it can work wonders for some people. The problem is that there are some things that people go through that talking about causes them more pain, and they believe that the best way to deal with it is to avoid it. This may not be the best approach; some of the things we must endure may only cause more harm, but we may not be strong enough to cope in the traditional way.
Conventionality is a way of life.
There are conventional people with conventional problems; they go through things and seek therapy because they believe it is the best way to get back on track. Therapists are among the most celebrated people in society. When you are in the hospital and can not cope, the doctor throws the word "therapy" around. It is the same for people dealing with drug withdrawal, PTSD, and a variety of other issues.
However, talking is not a magical way to solve problems; some people choose not to know things, and while this may appear unusual, it simply demonstrates the complexity of the human mind. When your life is not conventional enough, you will encounter irregular problems. It is not like going to a bar and drinking to get temporary relief; these solutions may not always work.
Some people make the mistake of using temporary indulgences to solve immediate problems. However, we frequently do not want to dwell on future problems, assuming that the ones we are currently dealing with will simply disappear. It is sacrificing the long term for the pain we are in right now; after all, tomorrow is not guaranteed, and many people would rather enjoy today's happiness than worry about tomorrow.
People who are most concerned about tomorrow are those who believe it is certain and guaranteed to them.
They believe they have dealt with the present and are now looking ahead to the future. While this is a human way of thinking, it is very different for people who are going through something. To them, the only thing that matters is getting rid of today's pain, even if it means giving up tomorrow. Some of the vicissitudes of life cannot be truly understood through therapy.
Unfortunately, there are many different ways that people choose to deal with problems; some of these methods may or may not work, and others are highly questionable and extreme.
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