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We often assume that the thinking paradigm determines the perception of a condition that is considered good or bad, so that actually the biggest influence on mental well-being is not external.
People have a tendency to adapt to new things, and the focus on what will happen is the adaptability of early humans.
But mostly, the conditions that have been passed will have less impact, such as someone who just won the lottery, made a lot of money or could be paralyzed, will just get used to it in the end.
Happiness or misery does not last long, only briefly and then decreases in intensity over time, year after year. So, how does happiness last?
First, coming from the surrounding and social environment, people who have been and will be in the circle of interaction. Also self-actualization, abilities and self-expertise are channeled into work and become the pursuit of personal growth through various obstacles.
If you experience various difficulties, then it will become a strength and deepen the relationship that helps each other. Support from friends and family is the main thing, but what is no less important is a more realistic self-concept or image, instinctively adjusting between beliefs and preferences.
For example, if you want to pursue a career but actually want to spend time with people outside of work, don't let this difference widen.
Must maintain balance, create coherence, by looking for meaning which is the essence of emotion, namely the meaning of life which is held as a principle in living everyday life. Do something meaningful and cherished, an activity or work that can be enjoyed, not just looking for a salary or money but is an expression of creativity and not forgetting spirituality.
Maintain relationships, with those who are loved and cared for, don't be easily blamed and be patient then forgive, take the initiative to be responsible first, find your own mistakes and fix them, find solutions and do good to others.