We do not promote excessive consumption, and I do not understand love for my child that way. We did not buy a bunch of clothes that my children do not even have time to wear, but we have already saved up some money for their future needs. I think they have enough of everything. We try to love on time together, with laughter, with peace.
I have my own idea of how I want to raise my children. But I don't intend to teach others how to raise them. In my space, only violence is consistently criticized. All my experiences are just my experiences, my choices, my methods. Different from yours, neither worse nor better - just mine. I keep repeating that I believe that there is more than one right way to raise a child. As long as love - real, accepting, calm - is the basis of everything, everything will be fine.
It's worth being yourself and feeling authentic, not like the masses tell you to. But I want to tell my children that they are good the way they are, so there's nothing left but to not be afraid to be yourself. And also, we have let others be like that.
A while ago, I heard the idea that a recurring mistake parents make is that they forget to enjoy their children. Not to take care of them physically, not to buy them things, not to make sure they are raised properly, but to simply enjoy them. It means, just have fun. Parents often forgot that childrenis a fun.time too. That they are laughter, games, lightness. Well, it's not strange, because life, responsibilities, fears, and work seem to never end. But now I try to remember every day that together we have fun, first. And that's true. We have a lot of fun when we are spend time with our children.
On the one hand, I truly think that the conditions for raising children have never been as good as they are now. Household appliances, tools, services - all this is affordable, not only for the rich. In my country, we have long maternity leave, fairly good benefits, and you can get all kinds of support from the state.
Even maternity and hospital policies are friendly to breastfeeding and parent-child bonding. But these days there is one big downside - that terrible anxiety-inducing advice, instruction, and opinions for young mothers. This greatly hinders parents from trusting themselves and their children.
The greatest shock comes from unfulfilled expectations. And when you allow them to be taken seriously, even changes don't scare you. The house can be a bit messy. When there is time, we will tidy it up. More important is creative, fun time with the kids.
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With love, 
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