One thing I have noticed about people is that we often judge the things we dislike more harshly than the things we personally enjoy.
That is why one person may say they could never be friends with someone who smokes, uses drugs, or goes to late-night parties, while another person sees nothing wrong with those same behaviors. Our personal preferences often shape what we consider acceptable or unacceptable.
I think the same pattern shows up when it comes to nepotism.
People in positions of power are often criticized for helping their family members, friends, or people from their inner circle instead of choosing those who may be more qualified.
I have seen people with no degree or professional certificate occupying top positions in companies, not because they founded the company or earned the role through merit, but simply because the business belongs to their family or close friends.
Employees who are more qualified and experienced may become frustrated because they know they are better suited for the position. Yet, the owner didn't make the appointment based on merit. They chose someone they knew and trusted because of their relationship, not necessarily because they were the most qualified.
The same argument is often made in politics. Many Nigerians believe that people close to those in power receive appointments, opportunities, and influence because of their relationship with those in authority. Critics call this nepotism, while supporters may see it as loyalty or simply looking after their own.
Those who miss out because they lack connections are understandably frustrated. But here is a question: if those same people who lack connection suddenly found themselves in that position of influence, how many would completely ignore their own family and friends in favor of strangers?
I suspect many wouldn't.
If I were in a position to elevate my family and friends, I would naturally want to help them first before considering strangers. I don't believe that instinct, by itself, is a crime. Human beings are naturally inclined to help the people they love.
The real issue, in my opinion, isn't simply helping those close to you. The problem begins when personal relationships completely replace fairness, merit, and equal opportunity, especially in public offices where decisions affect millions of people.
Human beings naturally want to help those they care about. The challenge is making sure that loyalty to family and friends doesn't come at the expense of justice and the public good.
I know some people would claim to be saints when it comes to situations like this, but then, if they find themselves in such a position in reality, their decision may be different from what they say online.
What do you think? If you had the power to change someone's life, would you choose your family first, or would you ignore your relationship and choose solely on merit?
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