“Should we meet and talk over coffee?”
“I’d like us to go out today, probably talk over coffee?”
Statements like these made me realize that coffee on its own is a social drink. A drink that fosters bonding, a drink that cements friendships and relationships. Or maybe not that deep, just a drink that people with like minds, a common goal or objective could drink when they meet up to discuss things.
And that’s how I feel about coffee. People are clear-headed while they drink it. It’s not a beer that you could lose yourself in and empty your heart, you make rational decisions and have light-hearted conversations. Or maybe not necessarily light but at least, not scatter-brained.
With all that said, I don’t think I have a problem with meeting a friend over coffee. I think it’s one of the best friend dates you could think of. I’ve never gone out with a friend for coffee but I’ve had a friend over and drank coffee together and I’m remembering the situation now. We discussed and laughed and gossiped. It was blissful because she has an equal love for coffee just like I do.
We talked and had meaningful conversations and I know she felt that moment deeply like I did. But I’m trying to remember the times I’ve felt more at peace. The times I’ve felt more alive and it was when I was alone. Woken up just before the sun rose. It was still foggy and I watched the red hues of the sun as it rose with a steaming cup of coffee in hand. There are only a few things that can equate to a moment like that. For one, it was still and there was just the blissfulness of nature surrounding me.
Normally, I could have soothing songs in my ear or meditative tracks to start up my morning, which I do anyway. But this particular day, it was me and my coffee and the still morning. And it was quite perfect indeed. To be honest, I don’t need to think of anything. I’ve got a mind and an imagination that sails way ahead of me most times, but in the early mornings, when I’m still trying to boot and wash the subconscious from me, kind of awakening to the reality of the day, my mind is almost always blank.
But on the few times, however, that I do try to savour my coffee with thoughts floating in my head, it’s mostly about myself. Reflections, plans and the best ways to move my day and life in general forward. There are many times I have a whole workload in front of me and even though I know every second counts, I just remain still and try to get my thoughts together. This is not to say I only drink coffee in the early mornings, trust that it’s a lot more times than that.
That’s just my best time of savouring coffee. And I feel that early mornings and a steaming coffee is an unparalleled combination. So, while the other cups of coffee, whether with myself or with a friend are to keep me running with the day, that first morning cup is to set that day in motion. To mark that day off to a good start.
So, while I would always maintain that coffee is a social butterfly on its own that it’s wonderful to share with a friend and it’s the best way to have an enjoyable conversation with anyone, coffee is best enjoyed for me when I’m by myself, away from the bustle of the world. Just me in my thoughts. In whatever world I build for myself in that moment.
Jhymi🖤
