Hello Ladies!
This post of mine is for all those ladies who are married and want to take the next towards expanding their family size by planning a baby.
First of all, this post is not to scare you. It is only meant for you to be able to critically evaluate your decision. Next, this is totally based on my experience, which can be different from other women or mothers. But yes, when I discuss my mom stories with my friends, most of them agree to most of them, hahah 😁
To start with, I never planned to be a mom. It was a drink and conceive thing for us. And we happily accepted it. It happened almost 4 years after our marriage, so I had a child almost 5 years into marriage, which is decent. Also, just to describe myself (because it really would impact your thought process and decision), I am a very independent and carrier oriented woman. I love to work, not only in office, but also at home. I like to give a lot of time to my home and myself. I am also someone who likes to party with friends late night. I am an emotional person too. I love my family. But when it comes to kids, I don't like them closely. As in, I can't cuddle and to koochi-koo with any other kid except mine. I like to watch them from a distance (if at all required to).
I've set the stage and now, let me share my experience.
| S.No. | Working Woman | Mother |
|---|---|---|
| 1. | Heavy Responsibilities | Heavier Responsibilities |
| 2. | More time for yourself and for things you love to do, people you love to meet | Very less time for things you love to do, people you love to meet |
| 3. | Lot of justice to carrier | The concept of working mothers till your child goes to school is a lie |
| 4. | Eat what you want | Mostly cook and eat what your child likes to |
| 5. | Dress how you want | Mostly want comfortable clothes in which you can easily carry and manage your child |
| 6. | Nails are long and well groomed | Managing small nails is also a task |
| 7. | Sleep as per your choice | Sleep becomes a luxury |
| 8. | Your husband loves you and so does your parents but they have others to love as well | Your tiny one has all the love in the world for you and only you |
| 9. | Love to sleep | Love to give up on sleep |
| 10. | Smile for camera | Smile becomes natural and lasts like forever |
| 11. | Date nights with husbands | Less date nights with husbands, but the ones with the baby make more memories |
I've given a few comparisons and there can be many more. In nutshell, I would like to say that motherhood is amazing. it calls for a lot of sacrifices, compromises, and basically giving up who you are (for some time offcourse). But still, those years are the best years of your life and no matter how much we crib, there's nothing that can beat the hug of your child.
I would really like to listen to other ladies' viewpoints here and also would love to answer questions from the to-be or new moms. Let's talk! @merit.ahama @nainaztengra @funshee @marynn @floraada @tibaire @explorewithsasha @leemah1 @sovebrito