It's pretty much easy to start a conversation but a bit more difficult to keep it going or even find the right words to spice it up. In most cases we have a whole lot to say or converse about but don't always come up with the right word or the right way to present the discussion or conversation.
In every relationship that strives to succeed or last, communication is one of it's key qualities. Communication makes it more easier for both parties to evaluate the loopholes in the relationships and also strategize to becoming and doing better.
What constitutes quality conversations ?
The resentment I get from meaningless conversations can bnever be comprehended. Am guessing we can all relate to the anger and disgust that accompanies conversations with no head nor tail. The truth is not every conversation was meant to make sense but definetly all conversation were meant to pass a message and if it lacks both sense and message then there is something the conversation is missing. A good conversation is focused on you as an individual and issues that matters to you . It should cover the person as a whole: your wellbeing, your experience of work, your development, your success and where you want to improve. A good conversation is not tick box exercise, but a meaningful way of supporting individuals to develop and be at their best. A good conversations is an ongoing process that you build on throughout the year, coming back to reflect on key themes .
Elements that enhance the quality of our interactions
★Feeling safe in conversations: We know psychological safety is key to a great and satisfying conversation. It's important to create this safety for your conversing partner to feel that they are able to be honest and open in a conversation. Nothing beats the swiftly flow of energy or would I say vibes in a conversation between individuals who feel safe with each other . Making your conversing partner feel safe would make it easier for him or her to be more genuine and authentic. This particular element helps fooster trust.
★ Wellbeing: Good wellbeing is when we are able to be at our best both psyhscologically, emotionally, and mentally. It's something that is personal to the individual and we all need something different to maintain Good wellbeing for ourselves, depending on our circumstances, norms and behaviours.
Personally I can't converse when am sick, fatigue, depressed or either not just in the right mood, at this point every conversations becomes annoying and irritating . Infact at that point your a talkative to me .
A more enjoyable conversations is one where both parties agree to go with the flow of energy .
An experience that has helped groomed the quality of my converstion is
That which i had with my mom years back. I knew i didn't feel safe having thay converstion with her, i didnt trust her next reaction and so i was not genuine about whatever i told her and as such i didnt get the required advice or feeddback i needed. And i ended up as a mess
Which i learnt the hard way. Truth is I learnt never to lie in a converstion but rather learn to trust my conversinv partner. And if i cant trust him or her then there should be no need for a conversation.
