The happiness of the household that is the goal of each family is formed on several factors, the most important being the family member factor. They are the factors and actors who create happiness in the household, or vice versa, domestic misery can also be created by them. Of the household members, the most important factor in this case is the wife, because she is the queen and the main icons of a household, it is the husband's reference and the place of returning the children, then in Arabic it is called 'Um' which means parent back place