Haha - ich kann's nicht lassen!!!
Wie konnte es soweit kommen? Wir haben doch nur gefrühstückt?
Ich muss leider gleich los und habe überhaupt keine Lust.
Die sitzt da in Größe 52 und meint, sie komme auch schon wieder raus aus dem Heim. Aber in der nächsten Woche sitzt sie immer noch da in Größe 52! Sie ändert nie was!
Das macht mich so wütend und das erinnert mich an meine Mutter. In der letzten Zeit hab ich öfter mal solch eine Wut im Bauch - auf sie. Weißt du, meine Kindheit war nicht schön. Aber das Leben meiner Mutter auch nicht, sie...
Mach dein Ding und STEEM ON!
Haha - I can't help it!!!
Apparently I can't get out of my (consulting) skin that fast. It happened to me again today, that in a nice conversation with a good friend I did some "Ditsches" by asking... 😎
How did it come to this? We were just having breakfast?
My older girlfriend invited me to her place and we had a great chat about everything. Then she looks at the clock, moans and says:
"I'm sorry, but I have to leave right away. I don't feel like it.
Clear that it is asked, because why do you have to do something that you do not enjoy? Her appointment was a visit to an elderly lady in the nursing home with whom she likes to play cards. But somehow this one would always excite her.
She's sitting there in size 52 and she thinks she'll get out of the nursing home soon. But the next week, she's still sitting there in size 52! She never changes anything.
Since my girlfriend has no weight problems whatsoever and keeps herself fit, the trigger must be somewhere else and I ask if she remembers this to anyone - maybe someone she would have lost. Short break and she listens to herself - my girlfriend knows my work quite well 😉 Then she says:
It makes me so angry and it reminds me of my mother. Lately I have often such anger in my stomach - at her. You know, my childhood wasn't beautiful. But neither was my mother's life, she...
At that point I interrupted her to make it clear that it was now about her and her anger and not about her late mother. Children are usually not allowed to show their anger and the anger towards their parents they often deny themselves because they love their parents and want to be loved themselves. Hidden anger is in many adults. And it has to come out because it blocks energies - physically! Stomping, screaming, letting out everything unsaid. Shake it all out, kick and trample. Just like very small children do... And NOT thinking about the mother, not about her destiny and not about the fact that she might be listening.
Even if the person causing the anger has already died, it is often still present and inhibits the necessary outburst of emotion. And getting physical is so important because in every cell the anger is still stored and has been blocking the feelings for many years! The rage should be felt throughout the whole body.
And then I was unstoppable. I offered myself as a sparring partner, which has already proven itself in such situations - in my job and in private. A sparring partner can hold and incite anger. The feeling of anger must be so strong that it can switch off the head and thoughts.
As a stand-in I would not be speechless of course, but would trigger and challenge her. Similar to family constellations, I feel the feelings of the mother and then usually find suitable sentences, especially since I also know a lot about the people concerned.
Childhood injuries are often similar in their basic feelings (depending also on the contemporary style of upbringing), so that I actually always come up with challenging sentences that clear the mind via anger. Only then does everything start to flow, because the person no longer has to think about understanding and apologising for the behaviour of the parents (mother). There is then no room for guilt or shame, "Child you are ungrateful!" or "You have always been too stupid for this world! You've been nothing but trouble, even though we've done everything for you!" Such or other sentences put the one back into the childlike impotence or into the youthful defiance (or resignation).
As fast as it can go. I (still) like to do it. My helper's heart is always beating in time with me.
My Friend will sleep on it for a few nights and then contact me by phone. And then we'll make an appointment...
Oops, I did it again. 😎
Do your thing and STEEM ON!
Translated with www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)
OUPS von Christelle Olivier auf Pixabay
Wutschrei von Sarah Richter auf Pixabay
How did it come to this? We were just having breakfast?
My older girlfriend invited me to her place and we had a great chat about everything. Then she looks at the clock, moans and says:
"I'm sorry, but I have to leave right away. I don't feel like it.
Clear that it is asked, because why do you have to do something that you do not enjoy? Her appointment was a visit to an elderly lady in the nursing home with whom she likes to play cards. But somehow this one would always excite her.
She's sitting there in size 52 and she thinks she'll get out of the nursing home soon. But the next week, she's still sitting there in size 52! She never changes anything.
Since my girlfriend has no weight problems whatsoever and keeps herself fit, the trigger must be somewhere else and I ask if she remembers this to anyone - maybe someone she would have lost. Short break and she listens to herself - my girlfriend knows my work quite well 😉 Then she says:
It makes me so angry and it reminds me of my mother. Lately I have often such anger in my stomach - at her. You know, my childhood wasn't beautiful. But neither was my mother's life, she...
At that point I interrupted her to make it clear that it was now about her and her anger and not about her late mother. Children are usually not allowed to show their anger and the anger towards their parents they often deny themselves because they love their parents and want to be loved themselves. Hidden anger is in many adults. And it has to come out because it blocks energies - physically! Stomping, screaming, letting out everything unsaid. Shake it all out, kick and trample. Just like very small children do... And NOT thinking about the mother, not about her destiny and not about the fact that she might be listening.
Even if the person causing the anger has already died, it is often still present and inhibits the necessary outburst of emotion. And getting physical is so important because in every cell the anger is still stored and has been blocking the feelings for many years! The rage should be felt throughout the whole body.
And then I was unstoppable. I offered myself as a sparring partner, which has already proven itself in such situations - in my job and in private. A sparring partner can hold and incite anger. The feeling of anger must be so strong that it can switch off the head and thoughts.
As a stand-in I would not be speechless of course, but would trigger and challenge her. Similar to family constellations, I feel the feelings of the mother and then usually find suitable sentences, especially since I also know a lot about the people concerned.
Childhood injuries are often similar in their basic feelings (depending also on the contemporary style of upbringing), so that I actually always come up with challenging sentences that clear the mind via anger. Only then does everything start to flow, because the person no longer has to think about understanding and apologising for the behaviour of the parents (mother). There is then no room for guilt or shame, "Child you are ungrateful!" or "You have always been too stupid for this world! You've been nothing but trouble, even though we've done everything for you!" Such or other sentences put the one back into the childlike impotence or into the youthful defiance (or resignation).
As fast as it can go. I (still) like to do it. My helper's heart is always beating in time with me.
My Friend will sleep on it for a few nights and then contact me by phone. And then we'll make an appointment...
Oops, I did it again. 😎
Do your thing and STEEM ON!
Translated with www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)
OUPS von Christelle Olivier auf Pixabay
Wutschrei von Sarah Richter auf Pixabay
My older girlfriend invited me to her place and we had a great chat about everything. Then she looks at the clock, moans and says:
"I'm sorry, but I have to leave right away. I don't feel like it.
She's sitting there in size 52 and she thinks she'll get out of the nursing home soon. But the next week, she's still sitting there in size 52! She never changes anything.
It makes me so angry and it reminds me of my mother. Lately I have often such anger in my stomach - at her. You know, my childhood wasn't beautiful. But neither was my mother's life, she...
At that point I interrupted her to make it clear that it was now about her and her anger and not about her late mother. Children are usually not allowed to show their anger and the anger towards their parents they often deny themselves because they love their parents and want to be loved themselves. Hidden anger is in many adults. And it has to come out because it blocks energies - physically! Stomping, screaming, letting out everything unsaid. Shake it all out, kick and trample. Just like very small children do... And NOT thinking about the mother, not about her destiny and not about the fact that she might be listening.
Even if the person causing the anger has already died, it is often still present and inhibits the necessary outburst of emotion. And getting physical is so important because in every cell the anger is still stored and has been blocking the feelings for many years! The rage should be felt throughout the whole body.
My Friend will sleep on it for a few nights and then contact me by phone. And then we'll make an appointment...
Do your thing and STEEM ON!
Translated with www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)
OUPS von Christelle Olivier auf Pixabay
Wutschrei von Sarah Richter auf Pixabay