The behavior of 8-year-old Dextor is not the same as his friends from anywhere. Often, it is his habit to intimidate and beat his fellow friends while playing. For this, many complaints were also received from his school and near neighbors. His parents lovingly scolded and explained, but he does not listen to any of them, but starts showing them eyes too. When the scolding seems more severe, then the things of the house are picked up and thrown away.
For every child, his mother, father is his role model. In their eyes, they are the best human beings. In such a situation, when the parents start fighting in front of the children, the child starts feeling cheated. The image that he has created in his heart of his parents begins to shatter and then either he keeps quiet or becomes like his parents.
Imitation theory of Psychology also proves that children learn social behavior from their parents only. By the way, it is the attempt of every parent not to do anything that has a bad effect on the child. But sometimes they get some such behavior in front of the children, which starts affecting the children and then the children also start doing the same.
After a quarrel, the parents starts blaming each other to prove themselves right in front of the children. Both start blaming each other, which makes the children confused.
The impact of fights on children
Children who grow up watching their parents fight, they have a problem of depression, because they do not get pleasant weather, due to which they become a victim of depression.
While fighting in front of the children, the parents forget about the actions of their children and the effect of their actions on the children. Often, children start to get scared when they see their parents fighting.
Mentally disturbed: Children get mental problem due to living in very tight environment. Their innocence starts to get lost and they start getting stubborn and irritable. But parents do not understand that all this is happening due to them. By the time they understand it is too late.
The mental development of children whose home is always in a place of discord, turmoil is not correct and they are left behind in writing, reading and playing in comparison to other children.
When the battle of parents takes place every day, then the child feels that this is the reason for this fight and then he starts living like a child. Many children even take suicidal steps.
Seeing the struggling parents, the child is disappointed with his life. He stops liking anything. He is not able to trust anyone quickly. He finds everyone's love false.
It is seen that in families where there are fights between the parents, their children go with fear. They feel that now their parents will be separated and will not stay with them. They start feeling insecure. Even they start clipping when they meet people and go somewhere.
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Parents often expect older children to take their side in the fight. But in such a situation, children feel trapped. Many times, children are also filled with guilt and start believing themselves to be responsible for the parents' fight.
According to a research conducted in the US, the battles have a profound effect on the body's immune system and their ability to fight against diseases is weakened. If there are conflicts between parents in childhood, they do not speak to each other, the case of divorce goes on for a long time, then it has a bad effect on the soft minds of children and not only in childhood, it has a negative effect Lives on their whole life.
Parents' quarrels also affect the children's education, due to which they are not able to perform well in school. Researchers at the University of Rowster, Syraphuse, and Notredum studied 216 children, their parents and teachers, over a 3-year period. In this study on children's anxiety with regard to parental relationships, it was found that stressful relationship of parents has a negative effect on children.
It is natural to have a fight between the spouses, as both are from different backgrounds, so there is bound to be a difference of opinion between the two. But it is not right to escalate the dispute and reach divorce and then divorce. To say this is a matter between the husband and wife, but due to this, the life of the children starts falling apart.
A study has shown that conflicts between husband and wife are not only harmful to the health of children, but also have a very bad effect on their mental development. Many mental disorders can arise in children from this. They either become timid or they start to deteriorate from the right direction of life. That is why parents may fight, but take care that their children do not have any effect. They should raise their children in the same way as their parents do.
Tips for parents
Think about the children, bypassing your importance.
The fight takes place between every spouse, but when one is angry, the other should be silent.
Do not make children a part of your fight.
If the spouse does not agree on anything, do not insult each other in front of the children.
Do not use language that is wrong and negative in front of children.
Do not talk to abusive people in front of children.
Keep in mind that the things that can hurt you will also have a bad effect on the child.
If the dispute between the spouses is not stopping, contact a counselor.