Hay que aprender a callar [ESP-ENG]

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The title reminds me of the classic post about how extroverts should shut up for a while. This makes me laugh, and how right he is!

A few days ago, thinking about some things that happened, I wrote the title of this post in my WhatsApp chat with myself that I have posted.

It is the fastest; then I pass everything to Notion organized with dates, drafts and everything I want. That way I generate content on Hive Blog as often as I can.

So there was this title, sitting until I stopped being upset about it, because, to be honest, the result of an upset post would be the closest thing to a scolding.

In this way I applied what I myself had written, keeping my mouth shut for a while, or rather, not writing about it until I had the appropriate words.

And that day is today.

Because this topic is necessary, especially today, where there is so much "freedom of expression", bad customs, lack of education and manners, and the most ironic, absolute lack of empathy.

We are used to giving our opinion on everything, to saying things without a filter, to commenting on everything on social networks, to saying everything that comes to mind when we get upset, even to speaking exaggeratedly loudly. To talk, talk and talk.

It's not bad, because if you don't talk, you don't communicate. But I feel that they have taught us to talk too much and not to be silent.

We don't appreciate silence.

And this is something I learned over time. From being a person who talks a lot, to just talking about everything you want with people close to you. As well as spending hours in silence.

Mostly because I learned how valuable silence is.

We might think that it is for peace (which does have to do with it), but it is also related to intelligence and maturity.

Because you don't need to say everything. It is not necessary that you tell your whole life, that you say everything in great detail what bothers you or anything else related.

Because when we do it we may hurt someone with so much unnecessary information.

In fact, it happened to me this year. Someone told me everything they felt about something; It was something personal; However, when it came to expressing himself, he hurt people.

And these are the types of situations that leave me wondering if "getting it all out" is really necessary. So I conclude that no.

I prefer to bite my tongue. Or just go do something else that relaxes me or deal with confrontation when I'm incredibly upset.

Although some people have seen this as disinterest on my part, the reality is that I prefer to be responsible for what I say with a cool head, because we are human and we can say very hurtful things when upset.

So I prefer not only to bite my tongue until I think sensibly, but also to really take care of the people I love.

Because that's what empathy is all about. Not the nonsense of giving yourself a false compliment on social media. No, people don't need that. They need genuine affection, for you to control your anger, for you to be a person who takes care of their emotions.

And it is at that moment that you realize that letting go of everything really serves no purpose, because after that you must solve the entire problem you created. Which, let me tell you, is even more complex than saying everything you think or feel.

All this because human beings are like sheets of paper, which, once you tear and wrinkle them, there is no turning back.

And of course you can forgive, of course you can move on; However, not everyone does, and not everyone returns to feel the same appreciation or trust in the person who hurt them.

So that's what empathy is about too, that's what loving others is about, learning to shut up for a while, think with your head and find the appropriate words to speak.