Can Sex Life Be Improved Or Changed?

In Africa, preferably Nigeria, some men have used this ideology to either deceive or dismiss some ladies or young girls.
They outrightly let a girl or lady know their intentions when it has to do with intimacy and sexual desires.
Some would say, they can't accept or can't stay in a relationship without satisfying their libido.
For some of them, their major purpose or aim as to go into a relationship is just to have a sex tool or toy to use at will and as they please.
We have seen and heard of happenings concerning this topic and how people end up getting hurt in the process and it's likely always the ladies when it has to do with this context.
Eighty (80%) of men in Nigeria will only go into an intimate relationship if a lady is ready to submit their body to satisfy them sexually.
I have had discussions with some of them and the answers gotten are always based on sex life. Some of them have told me nothing but the truth. Out of 100%, likely 15% or even 10% could control their libido while in a relationship outside marriage or marital seals.

People believe that going into a relationship with someone is a license to use their bodies at will or as they wish. They believe that when once two people accept each other and began a courtship, they are literally satisfying each other sexually. Here in my country, no one would believe you if you say you are in a relationship with someone yet you guys aren't having sex. To them, it's impossible not to. And to an extent, I don't blame them, but I would say this mindset is so wrong and absurd. It's not everyone that goes into an intimate relationship with the sole aim of satisfying their sexual urges, although for some it's the case.

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Some will use relationships as a training ground, saying they are testing to know who will best satisfy them after getting married. Some immature men will openly tell you that they can't marry a lady if they haven't had sex with them to be sure that the lady will be able to satisfy them sexually when they end up in marriage, or that the lady isn't barren; how lame!
Some would even say that one of the reasons why there are many divorces and broken marriages today is because of the partners' sexual lives. So for them to be sure, they have to test a lady's sexual capacity or ability (a very shallow mindset to me).
You will hear them say things like;
what if he or she can't satisfy my sexual desires later if we happen to get married? what if he is impotent? What if his or her energy doesn't match mine?
You will hear a lot of ludicrous things said by people just to prove themselves and justify their deceptive method and approach of testing people to experiment and thereby turn them into their sex tools or toys.

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Can Sex Life Be Improved Or Changed?

I will love to leave this question to married couples and perhaps people who are also intimately attached, I believe their experiences can tell if one's sexual life can be improved or worked upon.
Since it seems that 70% of men have problems when it comes to sexual life, asking questions like; if a lady would be able to satisfy them or if they will be capable enough to handle their sexual desires and urges.

If you ask me this, I honestly do not know or have any kind of experience whatsoever, so I am not in the right position to lecture us on this. I am curious as well to find out if such is possible and ways that this can be worked on too.
Your story or experience can help someone out there.
Whether you are constructively criticizing or educating, I will appreciate your input on this topic, thank you.
So what are you waiting for? Hello married and intimate couples, here is your chance to speak, educate and enlighten us with this topic.

Thank you all for stopping by and reading my thoughts today

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            23 October 2022