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Nowadays, the way we understand people, both directly and indirectly, is no longer a new thing to most of us. Every day, we speak about others based on our points of view, the way we understand them, and how we believe within ourselves that a person in question is actually a good person or otherwise.
One thing about talking about other people's reputations is that each person speaks based on their own experience with that person. Although we all have different experiences, these are based on what we like and what we don't like, what we feel is right, and what we feel isn't. And you know one thing about having a bad experience with someone? Based on our nature as humans, a bad experience often brings up negative thoughts, and that is also capable of motivating anyone to start expressing themselves based on how they feel. But nevertheless, it is still part of a one-sided story.
One thing that I have come to understand about life is that reality is totally different from reputation. Because reality is the fact about what life is all about, whether good or bad. But reputation has to do with what we feel it is, based on our personal perspectives and views. So, it is better to treat someone based on what I know than based on what people are saying.
Well, I am not saying that listening to what the news is all about is a bad idea. No, I'm not talking about that.
What I mean is that I should try to understand things myself and also act based on what I know, without allowing what the news is all about to blind me to what I have discovered myself. I hope you get my point.
The main reason why I am emphasising this today is that I have seen how easily it has become for people to get into issues they never started.
Take a look, for instance. Two people are having an issue. One person comes up one day and starts reacting, complaining, and explaining what happened between them. If you think about that clearly, that individual is expressing themselves based on how they feel things are right concerning what took place or what happened between the two of them.
On the other hand, think about this from the perspective of reality. When the issue started, I wasn't there. So, there is no possible way for me to actually know the full story. I think it would be very wrong for me to start judging either of them. And it would also not feel right for me to ignore both of them because something actually happened between them. So, the best way I think it is safe to approach this is to acknowledge their situation, advise them in a good way, and let them solve the issue themselves because everything started with them.
I also understand the fact that what people say is often not necessarily the truth, and the same thing can happen the other way around. When people speak badly about others, it does not necessarily mean they are telling lies. Neither does it mean they are telling the truth. Because we all know that there is good and bad. But the difference lies in the hands of the person doing the talking, whether that person decides to be honest or dishonest, because anything can happen as long as we are in this world.
Nevertheless, to me, one thing that never changes is that life continues to go on. I also know that no one can lie to themselves, neither can anyone deceive God.
Thanks for Reading 🙏🏼