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When we become adults we become more aware and we understand that difficulties are part of life and that whether we want or not in many occasions they invite us to evolve, if we are open enough to take each difficulty as a learning experience, so basically I want to highlight some elements that I consider facilitate the way to solve those difficulties that arise.
Difficulties are unavoidable and transcendental facts in our social life, and even though it is a common issue, to which we are exposed since we have use of reason, we do not give due importance to study, manage, understand and use tools that strengthen us in solving them successfully in any area of our life.
On the contrary, most of the individuals in front of a difficulty take attitudes that do not favor a successful resolution, and this usually brings as a consequence even the deterioration of the state of physical and emotional health.
Difficulties constitute a variable process that appears, advances, progresses and sometimes can be modified, get rid of or remain stationary.Difficulties are part of our social coexistence, from the moment we are born, when it becomes indispensable to learn to use many mechanisms to guarantee our life. Subsequently, family life teaches us to come to terms with the requirements that we consider incompatible or contrary, from our parents, siblings and the environment.
On the way to grow, develop, evolve and distinguish ourselves from others, trying to achieve our personal goals, we will always be defined by the obstacles or inconveniences of a world with deficient elements and growing requirements. We can affirm then that life without difficulties would deprive us of the opportunity to develop our abilities since we learn thanks to difficulties.
Our relationship and development in society is produced by stages that are regularly circumstances of change moved by the difficulties generated by the previous stage that was not totally solved.
In such a way that if we understand difficulties as a difference between how we behave, our appreciation of them, the objectives we pursue or the affection between people who define these objectives as incompatible, we can say that the basic elements involved in the difficulty are behavior and affection.
In order to manage difficulties it is necessary to enhance several skills, among which we will highlight the following:
Understand our own feelings about the difficulty: we must identify the cause of the difficulty, i.e. the words or effects that quickly provoke an emotional reaction in us, such as disgust, indignation, anger, rage or anger. Once we recognize the cause of the difficulty and the emotions it provokes in us, it will be easier to control them.
Listen carefully, to try to understand what the other person is saying: listen carefully and respectfully instead of concentrating on what to say next. This requires that you also project body language that shows you are paying attention.
Ensure that you offer options for resolving the difficulty: Most people tend to handle difficulties in one of two ways, either by coping or by avoiding it. It is necessary to ensure that the references, news, circumstances and all the information that we handle in relation to the situation, are correct, we must investigate and analyze all the ideas that may favor to solve the problem and discuss all the pros, cons and consequences.
Another alternative skill for the resolution of difficulties is through habits, these can be very useful if effective responses learned in previous circumstances can be applied to new but similar difficulties. Although, we must pay close attention to this as habits can also block effective resolution if people unconsciously respond in the same way to new situations of difficulty with previously learned habits without stopping to think or debate their applicability or appropriateness.
In conclusion we cannot rely on our old habits, we must be open to listen and understand how a situation makes us and others feel, in order to take into account different approaches.