I don't think i would ever want to tell my husband that i have fallen out of love with him. I know it would be almost impossible for it not to show but voicing it out to him is not something i think i would do.
Marriage is really a bold step to make with someone. It shows and exposes the other sides of each other that you did not know while dating. It makes you vulnerable to your partner because they get to see everything about you whether you want them to or not.
Personally, Though i am not yet married, i already have so much love and honor in my heart in anticipation for whosoever i would be getting married to (sounds funny right? But it's true). Even the very thought of falling out of love with him is making me cringe so bad.
I am a very imaginative person. While i know that everyone has something to work on and are not outrightly perfect in everything, i like to imagine scenarios and the personality of my partner.
I imagine him to be protective, brilliant,firm character, good looking,a good sense of humour, family oriented, a good heart and a good listener, intentional, neat, brave and a good leader.
One thing marriage does (in a way) is burst your bubble! Haha...
Even if he has all this qualities, i can imagine him having a habit or habitsss i am not quite comfortable with. Maybe a lifestyle that i can't cope with? Whoa...
(faints, gets up and continues writing).
Every effect has a cause, there should be a reason as to why one would fall out of love.
Let's say the first months, you are very happy to be sleeping and waking up beside your dream man and then those months turns into years and years decades, kids come in, work, he's now forgetting important dates and no longer getting those "i am thinking of you gifts and letters or messages", you are cleaning after him now and focusing on all the wrong things he is doing.
One key thing thing that dies and affects the trajectory of a relationship is the communication.
When you begin to loose the skill of effective speaking, listening and understanding.
I do not ever want to get divorced unless the situation is life-threatening or too toxic and he is unwilling to change, of which i rebuke would ever be the case.
Once i notice I'm falling out of love with my Man, i think the first thing i would do is communicate that i need a vacation or time-out to myself to figure somethings out. Not so much time, maybe a week or two, not too far from home. I have learned that taking yourself out of environments that are influencing toxicity (either temporarily or permanent) sometimes is a good way to have a clear head.The psychology behind it is just like 'not saying anything when you're angry.'
Within that time of getting away, i would like to identify the reasons i fell out and focus on what he is still doing right, his good heart and why i first fell in love with him.
When i have things figured out, i would go home and humbly suggest for us to meet our Marriage Counselor to have some sound counsel and advice, also have conversations stating things we liked about each other but we're no longer doing.
I would also want us to have some time out, away from the kids and work to re-ignite the flames of our love.
Best believe we would be coming back pregnant again. Haha!
