Most people have a special birth mark or as I like to call it beauty mark on some particular areas of their body and I presume that’s what makes us unique.
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There are lots of theories about the origination of birth mark. My favorite one is the one that interprets it as a mark that shows where you were killed in your past life lol.
My birth mark is quite unusual but still unique.
Growing up I was not so proud of my birthmark seeing that I couldn’t tell what exactly the meaning was. Everytime I wore an outfit that exposes it even a teeny tiny bit, people always notices and ask about it. They’re always like “omg what happened to your arm” and all I do is smile and walk away.
I do that because I was oblivious to the true meaning so I didn’t know what exactly to tell them. I had no idea of what it was initially, I didn’t know if it was a birth mark or a scar.
Meanwhile in school, everyone knows how secondary school can be and how bullies reign there. I remember when I got to school one time and a classmate made a side statement of me being abnormal because of my mark, I don’t know why but it made me extremely upset. Knowing I couldn’t say anything back, I remembered going to the school clinic to cry my eyes out and ever since I never went to school without my birthmark covered.
Whenever I asked my Mom about it she always brushes me off and act like it’s nothing to be worried about. She only said “that is how it has always been since I gave birth to you”. Between you and I, I think she is also as ignorant about the birthmark as I was. Well it actually made me upset that she didn’t have a proper answer for me since I was the one that get to listen to people’s opinion about my mark whenever I step outside.
Even maturing, I was still somewhat insecure about my birthmark. I didn’t like the kind of attention and questions it gets me, I always felt embarrassed when asked.
Although as time passed, I understood that it really isn’t anyone’s fault and also people’s opinion didn’t matter at all.
Additionally, that time my school were on holidays so my brother and I went to our Aunt’s place at Enugu state (lovely place) for the month. My Aunt had also noticed the mark, when I asked her she said the mark denotes that I was an “Ogbanje” which in Igbo language mean “a person who died at infant stage and came back to life almost immediately”. Of course as a Christian I don’t live by traditional myths and beliefs so I didn’t really take that as an answer although after I didn’t get any other plausible reason, I just had to take my Aunt’s word for it.
In the fullness of time, I grew to love my birthmark. I found it’s beauty in my body and my insecurities vanished. I also noticed it’s spread to my chest area which formed a beautiful tattoo like mark and I love it.
I’ve always wanted to stand out wherever I find myself in and I believe God specifically put it there for a reason.
And now I get so many compliments and admiration to it. People even go as far as asking me to consider drawing a tattoo there to enhance its beauty but nah, I’m content and of course I don’t do too well with pain so I’ll pass 😂. Might change my mind though who knows. Trust I’ll keep you guys posted on that!
More so, the only downside I can say I have regarding my birthmark is that it can be popped. Correction, I love popping it because it weirdly satisfies me. I also enjoy pimple popping videos a lot, hey no judgement😂. I believe everyone has that unorthodox thing they like and that’s mine. However, my birthmark can be popped but the unpleasant thing is the odor that comes after popping it. Sometimes after popping the head, it grows larger and starts to hurt although subsequently it lessens till it finally disappears.
This made my friends develop some concerns and advice me to go visit a dermatologist of which I will consider but I’m not quite ready yet. I believe it’s not an alarming thing to go as far as to bother a doctor about it. Which is why I initially don’t like the idea.
Also if I’m being honest, for the fact that I’ve grown very fond of my mark I also don’t want to loose it. I believe it taught me how to embrace my insecurities and love myself.
*To anyone out there with a rare and unique mark, I urge you to love yours because that’s a huge part of you. Despite anyone’s opinion, you’re beautiful, powerful and an inspiration! You were made to stand out so don’t hide in the shadows if you were before.
