I am not one to dwell on things of the past unless it brings up fond memories or an anecdote like this. There is no reason to compare what happened to what should have taken place. Learn the lesson and move on. But today was a family event so I had to take the time. The conversation turned to my daughter's four children. I felt she was in a place mentally where I could finally let loose and let her know how I felt about what went on with the situation where she lost all four to the state. She understood.
The thing was, it was agreed by all parties (to my knowledge) that even though she no longer had parental rights, as the children had been adopted, she was still allowed to keep in touch with the families and be notified of what was going on in their lives. For some reason these families have cut contact.
I myself put one of my children up for adoption almost 15 years ago. It was a decision I felt at the time would be best for him. I was not in a good place financially and did not have a stable living situation. I have not regretted it a day. He has gotten to do things and go places he never would have experienced had I not made the choice.
I did find out by accident, when the family came for a visit, when he was two where they lived. I was also getting letters and pictures from them for a while and could get them again.
I am lost as to why people behave as they do. I do not buy into the study of human behavior because I have learned that if you go looking for something you will illicit that behavior or event into being.
I guess what I am trying to say is I would rather see the positivity in people and that we can take each other at face value while getting along.