Trust is the foundation on which every friendship and relationship is built, and without trust in either of those, it's quite difficult to even have them in the first place, but if you've been in one before the trust disappears, then everything thereafter goes on to be shaky. And that's because trust is the focal thing that cements friendship and relationships. Trust begets things such as dependability, loyalty, emotional safety, honesty, and the like, and that's why I, for one, don't joke with trust; to me, it's one of the most difficult things I give out, and when I do and get disappointed, it's always difficult to give such people another chance.
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Trust is essential in every friendship and relationship; without it, you'll continually doubt everything that comes from the person you call your friend or partner, and when such is happening, we begin to wonder what's the point of keeping company with someone you can't rely on. I know the importance of trust and the role it plays in friendship and relationships, and that's why we mustn't joke with it at all. On a few occasions I've had people I held dear break my trust, and it's usually a disappointing feeling having to experience such, and that's why it's difficult to forgive to the point of giving such people another chance, because you'll be wondering if they'll take you for granted and do the same again.
Take, for instance, the issue I had with my friend and roommate during my university days, who happened to be a fashion designer. I wrote about how I gave him clothes to sew for me with deadlines in mind. To facilitate the job, I paid him immediately when we concluded the bargain, and when it was time for him to deliver the job, he began to play me, and right before my eyes, clothes he was supposed to deliver within three weeks weren't delivered until after four months. I was disappointed given the fact that he gave me his word that he'd deliver on time, but in the end, he broke my trust and showed his words can't be trusted.
Despite that first disappointment, for which I let him know how I feel about what he did, he apologized, and I forgave him and even went on to give him another work to do, asking that he please deliver this one on time, but little did I know that he'd only take me for granted. I mean, given the fact that he has broken my trust before and saw I forgave him, he most likely feels like he'll merely apologize once again and I'll forgive him once again, because this time around he delayed more than the first time, using five months before he delivered the job.
Well, seeing how this is a friend who is not one who can be held accountable for their words, I decided to put him aside. I didn't end the friendship, though; I detached myself a little and also promised myself never to give him any clothes, because he'll definitely just once again disappoint me and look for excuses to whitewash himself. Trust is necessary anywhere we find ourselves, be it in friendship, in a relationship between partners, or in business, and when it's not available, it can ruin whatever you both have.
The truth is that trust can be rebuilt, but it'll be quite difficult for the victim to completely rely on whoever broke their trust entirely again, so maybe technically it can't be rebuilt wholly again, but effort can be made to reinstate it to a certain level, and if the person changes for good and desists from acts that'll affect their friendship again, then it'll be completely rebuild, if not, it'll ultimately shatter.
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