Marriage is a beautiful thing and an agreement between two individuals to come together to become one and build a family of their own. These unions are often ignited by love between both parties, as they say it's better to marry for love than to marry for something else, as most of the other reasons one can marry for, such as beauty, money, and the like, can fade away, but love is what would keep the relationship for years. So does love abide by age, or can it happen naturally between people regardless of their age? Is it ideal for individuals with a wide age margin to go into marriage with one another? In this article I'll be stating my opinion on these and matters that revolve around them.
It's no secret how a lot of people tend to wag their tongues anyhow they like, especially when they see two individuals who have a wide gap in age get married. You'll see people make comments such as, "Maybe one of the parties was forced into the marriage," or "Maybe they're getting married because of money or material possessions," or "Probably because it's the family's decision and not theirs." You'll hardly see anyone who thinks they could actually be dating because that's where they find love and not because of anything else, and I for one don't think a limit or standard should be set for marriage, especially once both parties are already adults and can decide on their own.
What works for me may not work for someone else, and that's why we can't set a range for who we can marry or can't marry. I mean, come to think of it, while some people can easily find love among people of their age grade or someone who isn't too older or younger than they are, others would have had several experiences of dating people of that range and had heartbreaking turnouts, and it's with someone older or much younger than they are that they'll find peace, and what matters most is to marry someone who gives you peace and whom you love and are loved by in return; it should never be about the age range.
So as I've been saying, I don't buy the ideal and don't think there should be a place for such a rule or practice anywhere in one world. What matters most is that both individuals are adults and are mature enough to decide on what they want and what they don't. Once that's assured, then we should allow everyone to do things they want and deem fit and not about what we think is right or is acceptable to us. I mean, if we're saying this, what should we say to individuals who unfortunately lose their partner early and have to remarry but can't see anyone within their age because most of them are already married?
Should they, because of that, remain a single parent even when that's not what they want? Definitely not, and that's why I stick with my opinion that no such rule regarding age range should be accepted when discussing marriage or who you can marry.
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