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Hey guys, how are y'all doing? I guess you’re doing great. Today, I'd like us to talk briefly about something very important. I feel it’s so important because it affects our well-being and mental health massively.
So guys, let’s talk about dealing with toxic people or relationships. Addressing this is vital because, trust me, one thing at the top of everyone’s mind is peace. I don’t know about you, but for me, I need peace.
Peace of mind, or "rest of mind," as it is usually called, is one of the foundations of success. Without internal peace, we continue to be dragged here and there by the vagaries of external conditions, like a puppet. One such external condition that interferes with our internal peace is toxicity.
The toxic relationships we keep affect everything about us, and the funniest thing about this is that we all have dealt with or are still dealing with toxic people in our lives.
For clarity's sake, a toxic relationship is one in which the other person makes you feel bad about yourself and brings you down. There are people that just have this attitude to create negativity. They seem to get others irritated quite often.
They like to get on your nerves; They push your buttons to see how you’ll react. These sets of people can be found anywhere. You can find them at your workplace, in your family, and among your peers.
Whenever you are around them, you are bound to experience emotional or even physical pain.
The best and most obvious way to deal with toxic people is to get away from them. Abstinence is very crucial when dealing with these kinds of people, but sometimes it can be more complicated than it seems.
Complications always arise when a loved one is involved. We don’t want to hurt their feelings by staying far away from them, and at the same time, we hate the vibes and negative energy we get from them.
The six-time American best-selling author Robert Greene shared a powerful tip on how to deal with toxic relationships when you don’t want to take the option of “staying away.”
He (Robert Greene) said, “If you’re in a job and you have a toxic colleague or a toxic boss, if you can get away from them, if you can quit your job, do it! And the same in a relationship as well. If you can’t get out, you have to develop a habit of detachment and not taking things personally-and oddly enough when people sense that in you; like a toxic person senses that they can’t push your buttons, it has a powerful effect on them.” He continues
“I’m not saying it’s gonna cure them but they(toxic people) thrive on the ability to push your buttons, to see you getting upset and angry just makes them so excited in a perverted way."
"The fact that you’re not taking it personally, that you’re calm, that you’re centered, that you’re thinking to yourself, ‘It’s not personal,’ It’s going to have a powerful effect on them.”
So developing the habit of detachment helps you not take the things others say or do personally. You simply do not fall for their schemes by reacting harshly, but you understand that they are hurting inside and that they’re bound to hurt others.
The art of detachment and not taking things personally is a skill you need to practice. Once you’ve got it, you’ll become more powerful.
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