There are so many factors that contributes to the drastic changes we see or notice in friends, after they get to higher positions or attain greater heights.
The changes could be as a result of occupied schedules, new circles and a shift in priority, it's not always about pride or ego.
In most cases it could also be a misunderstanding or entitled feelings from you and not from your friend .
I have been in a situation where I was actually misunderstood, nothing changed about me , but my friend assumed I changed not knowing I was fighting a personal battles, and she wasn't aware .
It was during my first year in school, I was really stressed, trying to adapt to new changes and was also battling with severe health conditions.
Throughout my year in school, my first year was the most difficult one, not just because of the stress that comes with being a fresh man , but also because I was sick and trying to adapt in so many ways.
During this time, I tried as much as I could to communicate, I really tried my best, but it seems my best wasn't enough for her, she felt it was pride, new attitude since I was in university and many other odd opinions that wasn't close to the truth.
What really made things worse and made me felt heart broken was I heard this from another person, some years after and this was after reaching out to her several times and she never opened up to me.
She ruined our friendship, I never did.
Most times, simple communication and dialogue will create a better understanding for you and not assumptions.
After this experience, some years later I felt same way, and I tried as much as I could to communicate how I felt to my friend and I realized that he was only going through the pressure and stress of leadership.
Let me share the story.
It was my final year, I did a four years course and my friend did a 6years course, so he was in his 500level, became the president of his department and began to give me less attention.
I'm not so good at begging for attention, but good at distancing you when I feel unwelcomed, I never bothered to have a conversation, my plan was to allow the friendship die, until I ran into him and couldn't avoid the conversation.
When he explained everything in details, the difficulty of balancing, leadership and studies, I really felt I was a bad and impatient person that allowed her emotions ruined a good friendship.
After the conversation, I fixed things and got closer again, when I got closer , I only felt pity for him and I tried to be supportive the little way I could.
Most times, when you realize a friend changed, you should have a conversation with them, but when you realize it's in a spiteful way, then you should leave and opt out as soon as you can.
When you realize a friend is changing after attaining a great height, try to put yourself in their position, get involved with the stress they go through and don't act entitled.
As for the money aspect, I haven't had a friend that changed because they made enough money, instead I get alerts from them, especially the male friends.
But if a friend switch on you because they made enough money, then they were never friends with you.
We should do more of dialogue, than assumptions in friendships, most times our thoughts and conclusions about people aren't 100% accurate, instead we should talk and dive into their world.
There are so many factors that leads to drastic changes in people, especially friends, which has nothing to do with pride , more money or a higher positions.
Thanks for reading 鈾ワ笍
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