Ghosting might be unhealthy and also healthy.
It's a silent weapon used to regain peace to me. People don't ghost for zero reasons, they ghost because of a visible reason.
I'm not justifying the act of ghosting people, but when a friendship or relationship becomes abusive, manipulative, dramatic , disrespectful and entitlement becomes the order of the day then ghosting is permitted, especially when you know talking about it won't help.
When a particular friendship begins to seem unhealthy, and I have tried to communicate but it leads to verbal abuses and querrel I will ghost you. When I see the way you treat people around you, I will ghost you like we never met, because I will treated same way too.
When you become an entitled friend and feel the world revolves around you, I will ghost you with zero regrets.
I'm ghosting because I need to protect my peace, it's my silent weapon, it's just an act of protecting my mental health.
Two weeks ago , I had to let go of a very long term friendship by ghosting her.
I just had to let her go, ignore messages and calls till date and funny enough this is not the first time I'm seeing her behave disrespectful and entitled towards others, it was just my turn to get a share.
I have friends I communicate with one's in three months and even a year, and when we have the privilege to talk and see each other, we don't question ourselves, we just get excited and ask healthy questions and we are all good to go.
We are all young adults, embracing the challenges that comes with adulthood and you will be angry that I didn't call or chat you for a particular week, you will call me for help and I would help, days I wouldn't meet up you will be giving odd vibes, I will ghost you for my own peace.
Funny enough I was sick when she reached out to me for help, and I told her I was on a medication and wasn't having enough at the moment, and she said she was also sick , she wasn't even feeling for me, she just wanted me to listen to her and give her what she needed as usual, this isn't the first time she's doing this, it was after the call, my younger sister asked me, when I was going to approach her, I told her I have approached her countless times in the past to fix her attitude, after that particular call I decided not to talk to her again.
She stopped calling and texting after some days and I'm not also calling.
Sometimes, ghosting people is necessary to save your mental health and keep you away from many stress.
Ghosting can be healthy and unhealthy it all depends on the reason why you decide to ghost a particular person.
I ghost to protect myself from unnecessary dramas, manipulation and other toxic situation.
My decision to ghost people to protect myself isn't what I regret or wish I could reverse, because before I choose to ghost a particular person I must have communicated to you in the several times in the past, so the moment I switch on you, you would definitely figure out the reason with time.
So, no regret or a wish to reverse what i did to protect myself and my peace.
Thanks for reading ♥️
