We can't neglect the important of having friends, no matter how independent we feel we are, friends make life more interesting, especially when they understand what it takes to be called a friend.
Friendship is our safe space , a place we find support and companionship when life gets lonely. A place that we don't care about being judged or criticized.Friendship is a place we get absolute peace of mind and happiness .
Friendship is absolute love, mutual understanding, mutual respect for each other , care, trust , understanding boundaries, forgiveness and kindness.
I'm one of those persons that believe, fate brings people together for a reason, we don't just cross paths by mere coincidence or an accident,I believe fate made us cross path for reasons, we don't just meet and decide to build a bond, life always bring people together for a reason , and that reason gets to unveil on a long run.
Even when fate takes it course in , bringing people into our lives, it's also important to have a set criteria, because there are people who are just meant to be regarded as acquitance, but then we go really fast to call them close friends, without checking out some values, there are some criteria when we are bonding with a friend and I believe everyone should have a criteria in choosing their friends.
Setting criteria while choosing friends is very important and also protects us in many ways, over the years I have noticed that having friends who share different values, morals and lifestyle can be a very limiting and chaotic, because there would always be a clash in opinion.
One of my criteria in choosing friends is , mutual values, and it has worked for me so far.
Also, one major criterias people tend to neglect in keeping friends is the aspect of keeping friends that are positive and optimistic about life, friends that believe in you and your dreams and not laugh or talk down on you when you share your dreams, this is all similar to shared values , keep frirnds that share similar ambition with you.
Friends who want to grow and see you grow too, that's very necessary in choosing friends, because days you feel discouraged it's only your friends that would motivate you and keep you going.
Also, a major criteria in choosing friends is respect, loyalty, honesty , trustworthyness, transparency and kindness.
These are important values and qualities to look out for in friendship, having friends with these values will keep you safe and enable you have peace of mind.
Base on my experience, you really can't tell if you have made the right choice or not in friendship immediately , because time reveals alot about people ,I guess this have to do with having trust issues.
I have made friends who I get to see their true self after a long time, most times it even takes years to fully realize your friend wasn't good enough for you.
I have had bad friends and also good friends and that doesn't mean I would give up on friendship, because there are good friends out there too.
Thanks for reading 鈾ワ笍
