There are many factors that changes people, It's in human nature to change due to certain experiences, lessons and observations, and these circumstances gives us a different opinion about life and people, and afterwards, we just want to interact with them differently or not even interact with them again in most cases. , that doesn't mean we are showing our real selves, we are just turning a new phase or chapter due to an unfair experience.
The more we grow and experience the positive and negative aspect of life, it gives room to various adaptation, changes and decisions.
People go about complaining of how people started acting differently towards them , without searching for a trigger, without asking themselves ,if they actually did something that triggered the change in attitude or behavior .
A person changing his/her attitude, doesn't always mean they pretended from the beginning, It could be base on an observation, lesson , differences and experience.
Imagine having a friend that you share your secrets with, this friend knows every details and information about you, the person can tell about you and the you realized this friend is sharing with a different person, would you continue telling him/her ?
It would make you lock up and not share informations with people, because you felt betrayed.
Personally, I would stop, I won't even associate with you again and then that friend will go about telling others that I just changed, like I just woke up and decided to change.
Change is triggered, people don't just decide to switch on you, something led to it.
I have heard stories of good people change to bad and vise versa, it's normal for people to change for reasons, that are best known to them, and when you feel a person's attitude towards you is changing, it could be a partner, friend or colleague, you ought to approach them and not go about sharing that they unveiled their trueselves, that's childish to me.
Another instance, is about children, during their first enrollment in a new environment, when they are newly enrolled in a different school, they tend to be shy and quiet, until they get free with everyone, they unleash their trueselves and that's normal, among adults too.
This doesn't mean they changed, they just got free and comfortable.
There are many factors that changes people.
When people act different from the normal, you should be bothered about what triggered or caused the change, and not accuse them of having different personalities.
Although there are people with different personalities, but that's not always the case.
Change redesigns and reshapes us , I can't compare my current personality to my 16year old personality, there's an obvious different, because experiences, life and lessons have resharpen my thoughts.
People don't just change, certain experiences triggered their new decisions, attitude and behavior towards others.
There's always a reason, people change.
Thanks for reading 鈾ワ笍
