I’ve definitely known people who I have come from a place of feelings to and they then used that to not own up to any of their own issues and then project them all and make the whole thing about how I have issues rather than meet in the middle. It’s not that being vulnerable is ‘weak’ it’s actually the stronger place but I find when people have some real psychological issues they can use it to not meet you at all and just try to use your vulnerabilities against you. I have witnessed it a few times in myself and others situations and in all honesty with those ppl when I just stood up to them, they switched and became calmer and much easier than years of trying to come from other places. Like I said a lot of the time ppl want to grow, they want to evolve, they want to meet you half way on some deeper level. If they don’t I rly do believe in boundaries. I tried all kinds of things on my journey like no reactions whatsoever and allowing absolutely everything, talking about only my own feelings and in some situations I rly only saw huge transformations by having strong boundaries and standing up to people with bullying behaviour and just calling it out or cutting it off completely if someoen couldn’t respect you. In all cases it completely transofmed the situation for the better. I wouldn’t say I do it all the time as I would only do it with people who rly cannot meet you but it has always hugely transformed situations for me and really made me glow up and be more empowered in my whole life. Of course in relationships (not just romantic) where both people do rly want to be kind to one another but their wounds get in the way and there is loads of miss understanding and communication problems I do rly rly believe in this nvc. Truly. But I think we all have unique paths too and unique lessons. I don’t say I’m right cause No one truly has all the answers but I can only rly share my own experience and just try what feels right at the time. Even in this situation since I did that they have finally completely left me alone, It’s peaceful and amazing, I got heavily into nfts and got that push to do that, I found more people on the steemit platform and I’ve only gone up and up in my life and things have opened up in other areas since doing it.

Remember this wasnt just about one situation and was ongoing. If anything I feel I cleared all the stuff I wanted to say and kept to myself for a long time too and could just laugh wifh then now.

I do agree tho it is never personal, no attack is ever personal but I guess with some people both people want to work through their traumas to meet each other on deeper level and some rly don’t.

Have you ever strongly disagreed with those guys or said you don’t agree with something they say or wanted you to do? I’m interested how that went.