To be loved and to love someone , is probably the most common reflex action of all humans. it is also the basic requirement in everyone's life.although the intensity varies in different ages.. but the basic requirement never vanishes. it goes without saying that life becomes beautiful when one is in love.however this is also true that love should be true..other wise the hurt is also ever lasting.with the help of many experienced and devout people, we have compiled a few indication to asses if love is true or not.... here they are..
Present physically-absent mentally
Trust deficit
When in love , it is but automatic that one trusts the other.if there is no trust , there is no love. among different things which indicate trust- one is that the beloved one will never conceal the IDs or PASSWORDS from the beloved.we all have different accounts of social media where everyone operates with USERNAMES as id's. concealing these ids and passwords for accounts means there is trust deficit
Security locks
if your beloved one uses security locks at the devises that he or she uses and is very particular about them.... you must know that there is something fishy and there is delibrete effort to keep you away from it.
A liar
The person who loves me or whom i love.... will never lie on me, infact lovers are always transparent. if your guy or gal is an often liar and starts to fight when confronted with the truth, you must know that there is hardly any love involved and it is something else in the name of love.
False praises on face
a true lover will always talk about the beloved one where ever he or she goes. how ever an opportunist will praise on face and not mention anywhere else. thus- if your lover is telling others about you and it is getting to you that you are being talked about... well and good but praise on face and no ,mention anywhere else means that the praise is false.
Self happiness
love is about sharing and caring. a lover will always remember what makes the other one happy. it doesn't matter about what makes me happy ,however it does mater what makes my beloved happy.so if your beloved is pesistant on things that make him or her happy yet has no concern what makes you happy, you must know that there is no mutual love.
Critical on your qualities
i remember my mom used to tell us of a contest held to asses the most beautiful baby. among the contestants was also black negro mother with her child. the judges declared the negro child as the most beautiful baby and declared that every child of the world is the most beautiful to its mother... because she LOVES her child the most.thus one is FLAWLESS in the eyes of ones lover. but if your lover is critique of your some qualities, you must know that something is wrong.
forgive and forget.
Small arguments or problems keep arising between lovers every now and then, its perfectly human to err. but to make some argument as a point of ego and keep hurting the other is not fair in love. lovers cant stay without each other, thus, when ever such a situation wll come around- it will not last for long.the lovers will always realize ones mistakes and seek apology from the other and the other one will happily forgive and move on.
Favor and forget
one the most enjoyable moments of love is to be useful to the lover when ever required or in need. a lover will always want to be around in hard times of the other. the sheer feeling of being there when the lover needed me ... is to cherish for ever. how ever if the beloved one is always talking about the favors that were extended to you then you must know that something is fishy.
Just a small effort to make the relationship of LOVE ever lasting. if one feels that one doesn't have some of the qualities above... dont be sad, i suggest that start to practice them from today. i would love to receive feed back from the steemians. it will help me improve the blog. -pls give comments for additional points or talk about the ones written here.
to change ones direction is difficult in love
either get you or lose you is difficult in love
the sadness on your face tells the story all
but to break the stars for you is difficult in love
even small happenings bring tears to your eyes
to tell you all about my heart is difficult in love
i cant forget you and alas i cant remember you
your scent is in breeze the moonlight is your shadow
will i have you? its very difficult to hope in love
the heart and soul are in pain and excitement
the night doesnt pass and the day is haunting
alas its springtime in autumn- when in love........
