So of late, I’ve noticed there’s a new breed of feminism. Feminism that pressurises women to:
i) be what they don’t need to be
and
ii) be sexist against males.
If that’s the new definition of feminism, then I do not want to be associated with it!
I started identifying myself as a feminist because to me it meant women empowerment and by that I don’t mean pulling men down, but rather, it meant women could soar as high as they wanted with unclamped wings. I get calling men out for being the clampers in the first place, but I don’t get this new attitude that comes with it.
It’s a new type of feminism that teaches women to be bitter with all men, to think that they don’t need them, to shun whatever they say and call them sexist, to call them all dogs or trash, to hate them even! Yet in actual fact, we need men as much as they need us – yes need! We exist in the same ecosystem for a reason! If this is what we now call feminism then believe me, we will go round and round in circles where we exchange roles on the rollercoaster ride of ‘the oppressed becomes the oppressor’.
I also hate that feminism has turned from being the “I do because I want to…and don’t hinder me” to a “I do just so I can prove to you I can”. Doing things simply because we just want to prove to men that we can is actually slavery, slavery that we are creating for ourselves. So it just becomes a matter of moving from one form of slavery to another and that right there, is some high level of redundancy.
See, yes we can do what men can but we don’t have to! Men and women are different and that has been proven beyond reasonable doubt both psychologically and physiologically. It’s okay for us not to love soccer as much as they do, it’s okay for us not to love gaming as much as they do… it’s okay! It’s also okay for us to be more emotional than they are, it’s okay for us to cry, it’s okay for us to love chocolates and roses… it’s all okay! We are different and that is not weakness, it’s just a difference – a beautiful difference for that matter because that’s what makes life… life!
We are putting pressure on ourselves by trying to be them! We are not them, we are we! Let’s love and accept that because once we stop second guessing ourselves, men will also start respecting us for who we are and that I believe is true feminism.
