Taking The Bull By The Horns

It is a beautiful day in my beautiful country and today, I will be talking about fear and overcoming fear on a personal level.
Firstly, WHAT IS FEAR?
According to Merriam-Webster,

an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger and accompanied by increased autonomic activity.

In other words, it can be said to being scared of the unknown. One thing that causes fear is when you are exposed to something new. No matter how little it might be if you have not brought yourself to face it head-on, you will forever be a slave to it. As humans, most of us are scared of death but what differentiates us civilians from most in the army is their exposure to near death. Always putting themselves in the line of death has helped them to develop that resistance to fear when they face that environment. Most people are specifically trained and tortured so that they can develop that tolerance. This doesn't mean that they have flipped a switch that turns off fear. No, they have just gotten past it and when the fear comes, they control it. Just like a pilot is calm when a plane is in turbulence or a doctor after being exposed to a lot of blood. These professions have built and taught themselves to be calm in situations like that.

𝓜𝔂 𝓯𝓮𝓪𝓻𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓱𝓸𝔀 𝓘 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓶.

So, as you might have known or thought I am a human (if you didn't, well now you know), and as a maturing human, I also have my fears that I have discovered over the years and while I have brought myself to develop some tolerance towards it, there are still some that I have can't imagine myself getting rid of.

Two fears I know I have come to overcome are;

• failure/loss
• heights

- Failure and Loss.

Everyone is scared and afraid of losing and failing. Even though that is a good fear, it will also prevent you from doing great things. No matter how good or careful you think you are, if you go outside your comfort zone, failure is lucking around those decisions you will be planning to take. I took a wrong decision and it ate me up. You can see it here how I went down and built again. This was a new path for me and the failure/loss alone was supposed to take me down big time but as a crypto trader who has faced losses due to uncalculated risks or wrong judgment of the market, I was able to bounce back and get back on my feet. At first, it wasn't easy but I knew I couldn't just go down like that. So, I picked myself up and started again from ground zero. It wasn't easy getting my head around it but I did and I thank God for that. At least I used the knowledge from the failure to fix up a solution and I avoided every mistake I made back then.

- Heights.

I have always been scared of heights since I can remember. I don't know if something traumatizing happened to me while I was young but the fact that I developed this fear is what I didn't know. The fact that my profession requires me to do heights is what pushed me to try getting rid of this phobia.
There was a time during my 1 year in IT after my diploma when we were sent to an industrial building where the ceilings were very high and we needed to run pipes and cables for the installation of CCTV and PA devices. We were just 2 sent to the site and my supervisor was too big (fat) to climb that high I had no choice but to climb that high and as went higher, my legs started shaking (no safety harness, no scalp fold, no ladder) so why won't my legs shake?
For me to have done up there, was a big step for me in getting rid of that fear. However, the following day I requested for safety harness from the office because fear or no fear, accidents happen. lol.

I guess the next stage is to board a plane. in as much as the idea freaks me out, I want to see if I would have a heart attack or faint during take-off. Another thing on my bucket list is to go skydiving 😅😅😅. Yes yes, I know it might be suicidal but you only live ones.

There are also a few that I'm still scared of but that's a story for other time. Don't worry it's not cockroaches or rat 😜😜