If I was given a second chance to go back in time and do something differently, it would definitely be me taking my time before jumping into marriage, Honestly, this is one thing in my life that gives me so much pain whenever I look back at it, the moment I saw this topic, my mind didn’t even travel far, it went straight to this one decision , I mean trusting someone with my life without fully knowing them.
You know, sometimes in life, we rush because we think that time is not on our side, or maybe because of the pressure we get , or simply because we believe that love is enough to really carry us through, but as I have come to understand that love alone does not sustain a marriage at all, you see there are so many other things that come into play, things like patience, understanding, sacrifice, and above all, the true knowledge of who you are really with.
You see when I think about it now, I just realize I did not really take time to study the person well, to know their true character, or even to ask myself the hard questions, whether this someone I can build life with ,Is this someone who will really stand by me when life gets really hard? I mean see me I just jumped in like I was a mumu, thinking it was the right thing at the right time.
But then the reality came with fire, and not the beautiful kind that warms you o, not at all, but the kind that just burns and leaves big scars for you, Omo..... It was like stepping into something I thought was going to be joy and the. discovering it was full of cracks I did not even notice before.
If I had a second chance,I know I would slow down, I would pray harder, seek counsel, and really look beyond the surface, because, to be honest, people can show you what they want you to see, but with time, the real person always comes out,and maybe if I had taken that time, I would have spared myself this kind of pain that I am going through.
Do I regret it? Yes, but also at the same time, I believe every experience shapes us, as painful as it has been, it has also taught me to value myself more, to listen to my instincts, and not to let pressure push me into making choices that can alter my life forever.
If I could give someone advice from what I’ve been through, I would say this, don’t ever rush into trusting someone with your life, I mean take your time, Do not let the world or society push you into making permanent decisions based on temporary feelings, marriage is not just about the wedding day or the sweet words , it is about the long run, the battles, the sacrifices, and the companionship.
So yes, if there was one thing I would do differently, it would be to take my time, breathe, and really know the person before calling them my forever, because forever is a long time to live with regret.
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