For those in one relationship or the other - it can be love affairs or friendship, we need to understand that because that person didn’t express hurt over what you did doesn’t mean they are not hurting on the inside. We all have our breaking points so we need to show more consideration for one another and be sensitive. Being sensitive means for every action you watch the after effect of it.
We are all different and sometimes we do things not because we set out to hurt one another but that's the main reason we need to be sensitive because some people might not be bold enough to let us know how they hurt and on the flip side, how do we know when we hurt someone and they failed to talk about it. Somehow, we always know or maybe it is just me, but I think a thousand things in my head and I am good with reading moods, so I sometimes know. We all have our limits, we should be tender with one another especially someone whose absence you cannot afford.
We need to learn to always say sorry when we need to apologize. I know a lot of people have watered this down so much that it means nothing again especially when our resulting actions don't show we are sorry. To err is human, to blame another person for your shortfall is even more human. As humans, we turn things on the head just to make others feel guilty and apologize rather than us. That's our way of absolving ourselves of the responsibility for our actions when deep down we know we have wronged that person. Sorry is a noun, it is not a verb - an action word, so don’t expect it to fix things for you without taking efforts to make things better.
I love those who can apologize and them go the extra length to make me know that was a one-off even though I know we are bound to hurt each other again. It is something I would do too if the table turned. It's the little trouble we have to pay to let the person know we are truly sorry and sometimes when we go through this trouble it serves as a reminder for us to know what line not to cross.
Sometimes when people say sorry for what they have done they don't mean it. They say it just because they are compelled. There must be genuineness to it because, without the genuineness to back up your actions and words, the “Sorry” comes across very wrongly. Saying it without meaning it is just an insult to intelligence.
No one likes being wrong but I would say you should treat others the way you would want to be treated, it is as simple as that. It is okay to make mistakes but try and make amends. We deal with hurts differently. I know those who take long before they come around again and those who just let it go in an instant so it is wrong to ask someone to be like you and don't be like those who hurt you either.
I have read and seen how a lady invited her friends along with her on a 'date'. She didn't feel the need to apologize nor give the guy a heads up. It is wrong. Someone joked that two is a crowd and three is a political rally, hahaha.
Sometimes, we need to separate the place of your friends where your partner is concerned except you run it by him and he is cool with it and for the guy too, maybe if he had told the lady about his financial capacity, she wouldn't have bothered bringing her friends to the "date". If he wants to throw a party for you you can invite as many friends as you can but when he wants to make your day special leave it to his discretion.
Your friends have their place, your partner should too. One thing I have noticed regarding us as humans is that we major on the minor and minor on the major. Sometimes we know the wrong things we are doing and sometimes we don’t, but when we think things through we see the need to adjust and apologize for however it turned out.
Life is not hard and we shouldn't make it to be. How you treat others determines how much they mean to you. We need to be tender with one another. Apologizing for being wrong doesn't make us less of a person it only shows we value our friendship or relationship with that person.
