I can still remember the time I realized I have a thing for women.
Me and my girlfriends were having a slumber party. And just like with girls who are in their puberty, we talked about boys and the different changes that were happening in our body. Some of us already had our periods and the changes brought about by hormones were starting to show.
One of our friends, Jenny, was standing in front of the mirror. She’s the oldest in our group and definitely the sexiest. She called me and said, “Hey Rachel, come and unclasp my bra.” I walked over to her and did what she asked. For some unknown reason I felt excited and hot.
She took off her bra and turned around to show us her boobs. They were bigger and rounder and I couldn’t help but stare at them. I was literally drooling and I felt hot liquid dripping from my vagina to my panties.
Since then, I only had girl crushes. My friends often teased me about not having a boyfriend, but eventually gave up when I told them during high school graduation that I was a lesbian. By college I was already out and started seeing women who were bisexuals or lesbians like me.
In fact, the first time I had sexual experience with another woman was when I started work. It was with an older woman in the office and thanks to her, I’ve learned a lot.
This article aims to provide you with some useful information on how to please your lady partner through fingering. Read on and get ready to apply these “lessons”!
If you are a lesbian, you are aware that being a pro at fingering another girl is a must, especially if you want to please her and yourself, too.
And the art of finger fuck is one thing that all women are most familiar with, so it’s safe to say this is where lesbians have the edge over men. We know our body better especially on which spots to touch and press.
Fingering is very common especially among lesbians. Aside from giving our partner oral sex, this is one act that we can do in order to give sexual pleasure to another woman. It’s safe, fun, exciting and absolutely pleasurable that lesbians can’t say no to it.
However, just like with other sex acts, it should be done properly and carefully. The aim is to give pleasure and not to harm.
Here are some things to remember when fingering another girl:
Many women love having long fingernails but trust me, if you like putting those fingers inside a pussy, keep them short. Trim those nails regularly to avoid scratching the vaginal wall which can make your partner prone to infection.
Moreover, you have to wash your hands regularly. They’re the dirtiest part of the body and carry with it germs that are harmful to our health. Washing your hands before and after fingering a woman is a must.
There are cases when a woman’s vagina is too dry that not even an erotic foreplay can help. But even if she’s dripping in vaginal juices, it won’t hurt at all to use plenty of lube.
You and your partner can experiment using different kinds of lube. There are unscented and scented lubes, silicon and water-based, and many more to choose from. Lubes can make finger fucking easier, safer, and more fun, too!
Remember: lubes shouldn’t only be applied when you’re inserting fingers inside your partner, but also when you are stimulating her clit which is located just above the opening of her vagina.
Whether you’re with someone who has been fingered before or not, it’s important to start slow. So, never underestimate the importance of foreplay. You can start by kissing and petting each other, and once your partner is ready, you can start by playing with her pussy.
First you can run your fingers up and down her genital without putting them in yet. You may also want to stimulate her clit so she can produce more juice. Now, if she’s ready, you can insert a finger at first and if she likes it and ready for more, you can put in another finger or two.
One thing I noticed is how much my partner loves it if I set the right atmosphere by dimming the lights, playing soft music, and lighting some aromatherapy candles. You too can do this extra effort to make your lesbian fingering session more special.
Talking to your partner while having sex or when fingering is crucial. Keep your communication line open. Ask your partner if she likes what you’re doing or you may look at her reaction. If you’re the one on the receiving end, be honest with you partner. Guide her on what she’s doing. If you like having her fingers deeper, say it. It’s only when you communicate that you learn to satisfy each other to the fullest.
Fingering looks and sounds easy but trust me, it takes more than just pulling in and out your fingers from someone’s pussy. Vary your actions. Change your rhythm and motion. And be very observant as to how your partner reacts to you actions.
You can learn more about this through the techniques I share with you below.
Just like with sex, don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions.
There are those who just want their partner to lay still on the bed while fingering, but really, there are other positions you can try to experience all kinds of sensations. Don’t hesitate to try the missionary, dog-style, and 69 among others.
There are so many fingering techniques out there, and what may work on one may not work on another. The key is to always be open-minded and creative. Don’t be shy otherwise you’ll never discover which technique or position gives the best fingering experience.
This technique guarantees more often than not a squirting orgasm. So how do you do this? It’s easy, all you need to do is curl your index and middle fingers and put them inside your partner. Take note that the fingers should be curled upwards. Then be very gentle as you move them back and forth inside her vagina. Yummy!
The vaginal wall has many nerve endings which make it very sensitive to the touch. While most men believe that stimulating the clitoris, which is found outside the vagina, is the key to making women come, we females know better. Stimulating the vaginal wall is highly pleasurable.
Remember, the main purpose of lesbian fingerbang isn’t always to reach orgasm but the incredible sensations that go with it.
You know that women have different erogenous spots which when stimulated properly can cause her to climax. So, in order to give her the ultimate pleasure, use both hands.
First, use your fingers on one hand to rub her clit while inserting your fingers on the other hand to put in and out her vagina. This is like hitting two birds with one stone. We all know that a woman’s clit is super sensitive but once you also pay attention to the inside of her pussy, well she will definitely beg you for more.
Tip: If your partner is into anal you can also add some assfingering to the mix!
Another very effective technique is to make circles with your fingers. This can be done both inside and outside the vagina.
Start with making a circular motion with your fingers as you stimulate the clitoris. Meanwhile, you can also make circles inside her to stimulate her vaginal wall.
Tip: Use lots of lube to avoid hurting your partner.
Women sometimes talk about having their most erotic orgasms and one thing in common among their stories is the fact that it’s all because of having their G-spot stimulated.
The G-spot is part of a woman’s clitorial network, and trust me, this is the one you should focus on the most if you want your partner to climax the soonest time possible like in doing quickies.
Lesbian finger sex is one of the most sexually satisfying and pleasurable things to do among same sex couples. Hopefully, the techniques mentioned above will serve as your guide in your next session.
And remember that there are many ways to go about it, and experimenting on your own can lead you to the best fingering technique that suits you and your partner the most.
/Rachel
Originally published on https://www.mysextoyguide.com/lesbian-fingering
