50% of our waking moments are spent on either in the past or the future.
We think of the things we did yesterday, the events happened few weeks ago, or maybe years ago. We might be stressed out, regretting our mistakes in the past.
OR
We plan what we'll do tomorrow, this week, this month, this year. We think about what we'll cook for tomorrow, what we'll eat for next week, where we'll go for holidays next month, etc.
In fact, studies show anxiety and stress happens when our brain travels to the past or the future. Either something bad happened in the past or the brain predicts something bad will happen soon.
Like, if I don't get this done in time, I'll get fired!
OR
I shouldn't have slapped my son last night.
Let me show you a story.
I used to have a weekly routine to jog with my boyfriend at a nearby park.
Let's compare these different occasions when I was jogging.
Occasion 1:
While I was jogging, I felt the wind enveloping itself on my skin, I noticed a dark-skinned medium-hair-length lady walking a shining-brown-skinned dog. I noticed 5 kids, 3 boys and 2 girls are playing slides in the playground. I heard the sound of birds chirping. My leg started to get tired.
All of my attention was brought to the feeling on my skin, whatever I see and heard and smell. My brain was occupied in perceiving all these things . Processing no longer happens. I just perceive. I no longer have any attention capacity left to mind-wander.
Best of all, I was totally present, and I enjoyed the jog.
Occasion 2:
While I was jogging, I was doing a recap of what happened on that day! Memories of me waking up, cooking, playing games, going to work, driving, sleeping came to me. I was thinking what am I planning to do in this job, what do I want to achieve, etc. I was reflecting while jogging!
Which is the most ridiculous thing to do.
Why?
Because I almost fell when I was jogging. And I don't remember what I saw, heard, smell and touched during the jog. All I remember was I was kinda stressed thinking about a lot of stuff.
Not just stress but other negative emotions as well such as depression, anxiety, frustration, etc.
Most of the time, you're stressed out not because of the present task, because of what the future will unfold, right?
I've learned 5 effective exercises, 4 of them scientific-backed and 1 of them is backed by me.
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Like any other mindful practitioner or yoga instructors said, focus on your breath.
At first I don't get it, why focus on my breath???
But as I kept on practicing, I started to see the benefits of focusing on my breath.
As I bring my attention to my breath ONLY, I began to notice all kinds of different feelings. The feeling of the air coming in and out of my nostrils, the pain on my backbone due to sitting for too long, the expansion and detraction of my ribs, and the energy I am breathing in.
I tell myself these,
Inhale confidence, exhale uncertainty
Inhale power, exhale tireness
Inhale clarity, exhale fogs
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Like the jog I did on Occasion 1, that is categorized as Mindful Walking.
As you walk or jog or run, direct your attention to your body, your emotions, your surroundings.
For me, I will say out loud in my brain what I saw, what I felt, what I heard and what I touched.
I heard some birds chirping on that tree.
I saw 2 old ladies walking by the street.
I smell delicious food from that direction.
I kicked a tree twig just now.
I was having difficulty being mindful while walking, so I discovered the trick of saying it out loud works!
Imagine your attention is like a beam of light, of 5cm diameter. You control where the light goes.
Direct that light to the skull of your head.
What sensations you have over there?
Is it warmth, pain, pulsing, cold?
Direct that light to your forehead, eyes, nose, ears, mouth, cheek, throat, and moving downwards until the soles of your feet.
What sensations you have at every part the light shines onto?
Do this exercise when you've become stable from doing Mindful Breathing, Walking and Body Scan.
The total opposite of Mindful Walking, you observe what's actually happening inside of your brain.
Your thoughts.
Sit comfortably and start letting your thoughts come. Do not hold onto them.
Acknowledge those thoughts, categorize them if you can, say "Thank You" to them and show them the exit.
In this exercise, you must be open and must not hold onto any thoughts that pass by.
If you find yourself holing onto any of those thoughts, meaning you keep thinking about the same thing over and over again, do exercise 1 - 3 again.
Stabilize yourself and do Mindful Observation again.
I've learned this quick trick from 
I did this when I started to realize I am mind-wandering while I was working. To quickly bring myself back, I practiced Mindful Breathing and this.
Name 5 things that you see.
Name 4 things that you hear.
Name 3 things that you touch.
Name 2 things that you smell.
Name 1 thing that you taste.
Almost immediately, my attention came back to the present!
Thank you
Learning to be present at will is a learnable skill and is useful to live a better emotional life. Less stress, less anxiety, less depression, and other negative emations.
By exercising these practices, you'll reap the benefits of mindfulness. The more your practice, the more rewards you will reap.
Do these for at least 15 minutes a day to reap its rewards.
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