Anger is the normal emotional expression of human beings. Anger is not a disease but a lot of mental illness symptoms.
Reason behind Anger
- Anger is often genetically transferable in many cases. Children of angry parents may become angry, it is born with you.
From the family, people also learn to behave indifferently from the environment (Family and social learning). For example, if the children grow up in the area of quarrels, family members or fights, then they are likely to get angry.
Some people, such as masters of house or older in the elderly or older than all member of family, feel angry about their authoritative nature.
- Many do not know the language of anger due to lack of social skills. No matter how to say or do not know how to say it, it sounds simple and angry. As if talking to your hands, laughing out loud, talking laughing.
- But most people are generally angry with the full of stress / anxiety, depression, overage stress, insomnia, family unrest, addiction and lack of regular nutritious food (Lack of magnesium or manganese, vitamin C, or some B vitamins).
How to control anger
Instant control:
Avoid things you see or y which you can get angry when you see or hear.
You can understand that you are suddenly getting angry, then keep your mouth closed and take 4 seconds to get rid of your stomach (abdominal breathing / diaphragmatic breathing).
Hold the breath for 7 seconds and open your mouth and take out all the stomach air in 8th seconds. A few times, anger will be reduced. Because of the anger, the effect of so many hormones or neurotransmitter increases in our body from head to toe, so that the brain becomes less oxygenated, so that the hormones of anger are bound to emit or work.Walk a little while you can, in order to get the cost up energy. Soften your shoulders, neck hard, turn your hands or knees. Take the help of others if necessary.
But do not lose anger, remember any kind of sweet memories of your life or any place you like.
Count, number or all fingers in your hands. Can eat cold water.
Long term
- Meditate. There are different types of meditations, please practice.
- Learn to talk, learn the beautiful language while anger, narrative, follow others, how he is talking about controlling anger.
Refrain from seeing someone who is angry with him. For example, you have a chair (Empty chair technique) thinking he is sitting on that chair, tell him in the room what you want to say. Or take a balis in front of him thinking of thinking or grudgingly. It will not make your anger social. You will see your anger decreasing.
Regular physical exercise pains for several days a week.
what not to do in angry moment
- Do not blame yourself.
- Keep in mind that no guilt is done for you in anger.
- Cigarette, alcohol, and medicines often reduce anger for hormonal changes. It's unhealthy approach / strategy, to avoid them.
- Do not make any promises or break promises.
I hope these few steps will be helpful for you guys to control your anger and let you calm in your angry moment while Rashel Nirjhon words are so helpful to write this, so thanks to him and Best wishes for you guys. Thanks