“The patient dog eats the fattest bone.”
One of the many statements people use to explain their stagnation in life. You see, we tend to see a patient person as someone who doesn’t really “work” and more as someone who is just “waiting.”That is a terrible mindset to have. Things don’t get better with time; they get worse. If you were to leave your food outside, with time, it won’t get sweeter or more tasty; it’d just spoil.
A patient person isn’t someone who is waiting for something to happen; a patient person is someone who is working for something to happen. Patience is less about waiting and more about following a process. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been somewhere or how long you’ve been pursuing a goal; the only thing that matters is the process you followed. If you’re not willing to follow the process, give up the goal. If at any point in time, you are “waiting for something to happen,” then at that point, you are not patient, but idle.
People use the excuse of “patience” to while away their lives. That is stupid. If you are someone who has to wait for things to happen at certain points in your life, you’ll find out that it is boring. To be patient does not mean that you are at one point and hoping that something or somebody will change your life; to be patient is to look at what change you want in your life, and then take the steps you need to take to reach that change. You make your change by what you do, and that is the whole point of patience. Patience is working, not waiting.
Between what you work for and what you wait for, I guarantee you that what you work for feels more worthwhile. For example, if you needed about $100 for something like a school project, and you work for it, and after said work, you get the money, you will treasure it way more than if someone else gave it to you. The thought we have about a patient person, which is (waiting for something to happen), now leads to a beggarly mindset. This is because when you are just waiting and not actually doing anything to change your situation, it puts you in the backseat of your own life and forces you to only look for where you can be helped, blessed, changed, etc., which can lead to being taken advantage of and other terrible things that come from this downward spiral.
In conclusion, you need to stop thinking of patience as a state of “waiting.” Your proof of patience is your work.
