I always keep track of mistakes I make in my life. I know that I don't want to raise a kid who comes with all the qualities same as me, I won't going to like the same as me but I want my kid to be better than me, more compassionate, and more empathetic. But one question that always puzzles me is that if I want to give my kid a stress free or challenges free life? or is it going to be a bad decision?
I don't know but I know that my kid will grow up in an individual who will have his/her/their own perception about this world. I don't want to influence that learning part which the kid will attain from own developed methods. I want to give qualities to tackle challenges, I don't want to move obstacles away from the path but rather knowledge the kid to overcome the challenge. I want to nurture my kid with a lot lof love, affection, knowledge. I want to grow him/her/(them) in a responsible person to whom other person can count on.
There is one popular proverb by Kabir - "Sukh me sumiran sab kare, dukh me kare na koi, jo dukh me sumiran kare tab dukh kaye ko hoye"
It means everyone remembers a person in his happiness but not when he is in worst phase. This proverb is now a part of my personality. I want to stand in everyone's worst though if I miss to be there in their happiness. This same value I want to pass on to my kid and upcoming generation. Being present fro someone in their worst, does magic to them. It not only heals that person but empowers the person to keep patience and turn the situation.
Though I am yet to be a father but will be in a couple of years but I started feeling that how presentable I want to be to my kids. The type of person I want to be for my kid. This feeling boosts me up to grind hard on my work and follow the fundamental qualities of my life - truth, discipline, honesty, compassion, empathy, integrity. These qualities are helping me enough to get through my life - no matter what I face and these same qualities are my gems that I want to pass to my kid.
I am still miles away from becoming a perfect person but I am getting better at it. With 30s appraching to me, I can feel the change in me both in emotion and behaviour. I now know that what I do will not only affect me but my future as well. That's why I try to be on the right path, towards spirituality than materialnism. Teaching isn't easy and being compassionate or relating to my kid's feeling is going to be an amazing journey. I hope to turn into a good person which my kid will be proud of. I am looking forward to you kiddo.
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