I watched an interview where Jada Wizkid's baby mama kept lamenting about how she only has the baby mama title to her name , despite all that she contributed to his life and career in the music industry.
It really is quite saddening as this is one of those titles that really does a great deal of damage to a woman's reputation in the society and in Africa. I don't know about other places.
It's so Bizarre as woman could own a lot do a lot and still be dished just the baby mama title despite having stayed with a man and doing so much for him and even giving him kids , she always gonna be the baby mama.
And when life goes South she becomes faulted at for been the one that messed up the relationship that's why she has been left to be a single mother or baby mama.
Life can me Messy , but titles and stigmatism can be messier.
It really never goes away for a while you just want society to see you in a light that doesn't involves raising kids alone, kids that it took the woman and a man to make but he decides to bail out.
Once the babies starts coming in , the guy in most cases starts to have cold feet about wanting to do right by her and make her his wife.
He used to be the one in her space every now and then but he now has an offspring and for free he starts to feel relaxed and just starts to go about his business, because now he didn't have to do too much to get a child .
Jada has always been Wizkid's support system but over Time people only see her as the baby mama and , since things like that are not very commendable in Africa and Nigeria where I come from the woman suffers more backlash from society.
Some people say why marry and have kids , what if the marriage doesn't work , Marriage these days have issues, 馃槀 Lol.
Same way you Don't plan for an accident but it happens anyway and you have to get in the car anyways and drive to wherever and you still go ahead to wear you seat belt , so why not avoid the car automatically so you can be free of road accidents.
Or why do you go to work anyway you could die one day so why not stay jobless all the same , you see these theories are supposed to be applied to marriage too, get married and have kids end of story .
You'd be surprised that it would work out.
There are benefits that Been Married would give that been Baby Mama would never give , so my darlings just do what we call in Naija Slangs "Wise Up".
Whatever you do don't fall pregnant this Year
Peace out .
