Recent events have made me realize that the word forever should be scrapped out from wedding vows because in my opinion it has become nothing but an illusion. Recent chart of failed marriages and relationships in the world today is surprisingly high. These are people who once vowed forever but it failed them. Many end up asking themselves why and blaming themselves for not doing things right.
I am well aware that most people promise forever because they have faith in the word and believe it to bind them with their partners but they're always snapped back to reality when everything they sweated to build comes crashing.
I believe in love but I don't believe in forever. That word for a long time now has been crossed out in my dictionary. It's acceptable to be used in other contexts but the context of relationships; be it platonic or sexual does not sit well with me.
So there's this TikTok influencer, I follow that had something like the most beautiful relationship in the world. I followed her because of how much I admired her relationship. I know I broke the rule of not believing everything I see online, but her relationship seemed too good to be mere screen theatrics.
Few days ago, I saw videos of her boyfriend getting married to someone that wasn't her. It was shocking that I had to go look up her account to confirm it wasn't one of these social media scammers trying to trend. She had taken down all the videos that had her and the boy in it. She turned off comments and posted heartbreak vids and quotes. I was dumbstruck. A relationship of almost five years soiled in the mud.
If one is in love, in my opinion, I feel forever shouldn't be promised. Just love, live, and be grateful for what you have. I know we all like putting our faith in things, but I'd advise we don't hope too much. Having high hopes on something makes us break more than we should have when it doesn't work out the way we envisioned it.
Love is a beautiful thing, we all know this but avoid sitting at the rooftop at night to promise anyone forever. Fate always has a different story to tell. Let Fate and the universe decide forever. Don't promise it till you're a hundred years together.
With love, teknon ✨