Let have a situation. Your child is commenting something. You have denied. You don’t know, how you are pressurizing them to be deprived. It is occurring every day in most of the families.
We like to do such. Generally we think, what parents say about, is to be the end of conversation. When you ignore them, they feel guilty. They think, they are neglected. And this feelings create inferiority complex on their mind.
You must consider that they have opinions. And some observations. About anything. About everything. Even sometimes the opinions may have more weight than the adults.
Now the question is, allowing children for giving an opinion or a say so in things the best option to parent for their child? How much priority should child’s opinion carry?
Kids aren't as delicate as adults like to think, act, and judge as well as they aren't ignorant of what's happening around them. So they don't need to be protected from reality what's happening around
Some parents argue that important matters are adults concern, they shouldn’t be engage with these matters. Why many parents can’t understand that whenever you allow for giving child an opinion, it shouldn’t be the most important opinion in the home.
We should entitle the child to an opinion and in order to show priority and compassion, and listen to it intently. Giving your child to put an opinion, doesn’t mean that they should get the right to argue or debate if about they do their homework or the rules their house.
However, they should be inspired to talk about their feelings. Whenever you feel they are doing unfair, then allow them to discuss it with you and explain them to understand why things should not be on the way they are.
The importance of allowing your child to say and put their own opinion is that it boosts them to realize for themselves and helps them a feeling of empowerment.
If children can ask about things at house, freely, without anger or fear they will likely take these skills with them into the world.
Giving your child a chance to put their opinion, allows them to feel worthy and respectful. It also shows that you have care and attention for your child.
The parent-child relationship takes on all sorts of dynamics and some of them, such as respect should be mutual. If children are constantly silenced by authority in their lives, they grow up feeling as though they have nothing important to add.
Why will you respect your child's challenges?
Sometimes they try to see how far they can go. It's not that they want full freedom, rather they don’t confirm about their border.
So they want to know what the limits are. If you can set a reasonable and respectful limit for them in any concern, it will enable them to set their own idea about the borderline.
So I will draw a conclusion by some points as when should you show respect for your child:
So when you’re asking for their help, you can say:
“Are you available now to help me?”
“What is your schedule today?”
“Would you mind to walk a while?”
“May you have choice the blue bag?”
Showing respect for their time teaches children to respect your time as well.
Some info got from different sources: professorshouse.com aish.comf/p/Respect-Your-Kids-and-Theyll-Respect-You.html)
