LET YOUR KIDS CRY!

"Hidden tears destroy a soul". I heard this quote long ago, and I remember how it impressed me.
From that time I've read lots of psychological books both about kids psychology and adult one, and now I do see this quote is right.

Tears are a reaction of our body to pain or offense or any other strong emotion. If we don't let them go out, our emotions are closed into our body. If it happens lots of times, if it's a habbit or just a way of life, this hidden emotions and tears really start to destroy a soul and a body (deseases).

We must live our emotions. They appear in us, and we must try to catch them, analyze and let them go. If we don't do it, we just shut them into our inner "box" that one day will explore like a bomb.

Adults often hide their tears and emotions. Why? Because they were taught to do it since their childhood.
Especially if it touches boys. I am sorry for boys the most because their sex leads to many taboos for them in living with their emotions.

Is it so in your country and culture?

Here in my place it's an old tradition that still exists like a trace of past.

• You are a boy, don't cry!
• You're a boy, a future man, don't be weak, you have to be strong, no tears!
• Don't show your emotions, you're a boy, only girls can cry!

I hear it almost every day at playgrounds. And it's awful.

My parents have the same position, and they once said the same to my boy. I had a serious talk with them and forbid them to say something like this to my son.

He is a boy. He is alive. he is a person. He has a right to have his emotions and live them completely. If he has pain, in his soul or in the body, he can cry! And he will meet no punishment or judgements from me, I will try to support and help him to overcome it.

Parents who forbid their boys be just kids with different emotions make a great mistake, and I know how bad effects it will have for them...

These hidden emotions never just disappear, they continue to live inside of them, and such hidden tears are one of reasons for psychological blocks and traumas that can ruine their lives.

Tears are not a sign of weakness.
It's a sign of wisdom and emotional intelligence, sign that you love youurself, your body and you let yourself just to be YOU.