For Men: A Silent Deception... When Compassion Becomes a Path to Sin
Let's examine this dark valley of the male psyche and the self, which is apparently called "compassion" and "messianic", but when viewed through the lens of a pure Islamic concept of the universe and monotheism, it proves to be the most dangerous, subtle and beautiful deception of the ego and Satan.
This scene is now very common in our society *especially in the digital world Imagine A man receives an unwanted message—whether it is a message in his inbox or a comment on a post He is upset his words are tearful and broken in tone and he tells the story of the difficulties of his life his own suffering or the suffering caused by someone else.
Suddenly, a feeling awakens inside you You see him and make a decision in your heart:
"I am the prince who can save him. I will fix his life. This was the troubled soul I was looking for, now I will be his Savior."
Just then all the scenes from Bollywood movies start playing before your eyes and you start flying in the air
This is where the game begins which modern secular psychology simply calls
"Savior Complex"
a psychological confusion, but the Holy Quran calls it in its own terms "Khutwaat-e-Shaitan" (footprints of Satan).
*Satan never directly invites a religious, civilized or moral person to commit immorality. He presents sin before her in the most pure guise of "sympathy", "guidance", "counseling" and "support".
The journey of destruction that begins with compassion
When a person removes himself from the position of 'servitude' and unconsciously begins to consider himself the 'Lord' (Sustainer, Fixer) of another's life, a definite and terrible path of destruction begins:
▪️1 . Pretense of sympathy :
She is clearly not mahram, but in the madness of "saving" her, you shake all the boundaries of Sharia (Boundaries of Allah) from your mind. You think that your intention is so noble that the principles of Sharia should be relaxed here.
▪️2. Start of relationships :
. In the beginning, a conversation starts on Messenger or WhatsApp with the pretext of simply "solving her problem" and teaching her religion.
▪️3. Heartache:
Slowly things increase.
As time passes, the man's heart starts yearning to solve the problems of this non-mahram, to get him out of depression and to be his psychological crutch.
▪️4. Journey of loneliness:
. This series of messages is cut off from gatherings and public comments and reaches the inbox in the solitude of the night.
Sometimes the devil also suggests that let's teach him the Quran alone at two in the morning your intention is very "pure" The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said that where two non-mahrams are alone, there is a third devil.
▪️5. Meetings:
Then a series of meetings in solitude begins in the name of counseling, guidance, or "getting him out of the stranglehold of society".
▪️6. Transgression of Divine Boundaries:
And then one day... while walking in this beautiful mirage of compassion and messiahship, that last boundary is crossed
Sometimes, Satan attacks in the name of teaching and learning religion alone
In his famous book Ihya' Ulum al-Din, Imam Ghazali calls this condition 'Talbis-e-Iblis' (deception of Satan) and the deadly disease of the soul 'Ujb'. In fact, the crying of another human being and complete dependence on you gives a false sense of comfort to your male ego that how powerful and important you are. This is not compassion, this is unconscious arrogance and hidden lust that is trying to become God.
Collective Savior Complex: The Tragedy of Movements
This spiritual disease is not limited to the issues of non-mahrams at the individual level, but it has also spread like a cancer in the psyche of our Islamic and social movements.
When a Da'wah group or group falls prey to this delusion, it begins to understand that
"We are the only light of the dawn of the revolution, if we are not there, the Ummah will be destroyed."
This collective superior complex makes them believe that they have the entire contract for the survival of the religion. They forget the basic monotheistic truth that the only reformer guide and protector of the universe is Allah alone Even the prophets did not have the authority to "save" people by force The Quran clearly states:
Indeed, you cannot guide whom you love, but Allah guides whom He wills
(O Prophet! You cannot guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills)
Our job is to try within the scope of the Shariah by becoming a 'servant', not to become a divine claimant (God or Lord).
In short: What is true manhood (Qawameet)?
When you set out to solve someone's problems as a Lord, Allah's natural system will crush you. You will destroy your faith and peace in the cycle of becoming an emotional crutch for a non-mahram, and ultimately both will fall into the pit of destruction.
True manhood is not becoming a "messiah" for a non-mahram in the solitude of the night or breaking the limits of the Shariah in the name of compassion.
True manhood is for a man to recognize the limits of his servitude.
If you are truly that sincere and want to help a crying non-mahram, then as a 'servant', while remaining within the limits of Sharia, hand over the problem of this non-mahram to your mother or wife so that they can teach them as much religion or counseling as they need.
