Pienso que el qué dirán tiene una gran influencia en la vida de las personas, los comentarios malintencionados pueden destruir a cualquiera y ahora, con la velocidad de propagación de las redes sociales, más aún.
Y sÃ, puedes hacer lo que quieras con tu vida, siempre y cuando, en primer lugar, no perjudique a otros y, en segundo, que no dependas de alguien o algo a quien tu comportamiento le incomode de alguna manera.
Por ejemplo, para mantener un empleo, debemos seguir ciertos códigos, nos guste o no.
Si vivimos con nuestros padres, pues, debemos seguir sus reglas, queramos o no.
Y si aspiramos que una pareja nos tome en serio, debemos ser prudentes, aunque igual eso no nos de ninguna garantÃa de nada, pero al menos hacemos nuestra parte.
Entonces, aunque nos neguemos aceptarlo, estamos dentro una camisa de patrones sociales y morales que seguir, que no están del todo mal, porque si el ser humano se manejara en base a sus instintos, no habrÃa ningún tipo de orden.
I think that what people will say has a great influence on people's lives, malicious comments can destroy anyone and now, with the speed of propagation of social networks, even more so.
And yes, you can do whatever you want with your life, as long as, first of all, it does not harm others and, secondly, you do not depend on someone or something to whom your behavior is somehow uncomfortable.
For example, to keep a job, we must follow certain codes, whether we like it or not.
If we live with our parents, well, we must follow their rules, whether we like it or not.
And if we aspire to be taken seriously by a partner, we must be prudent, even if it doesn't guarantee anything, but at least we are doing our part.
So, even if we refuse to accept it, we are inside a shirt of social and moral patterns to follow, which are not all bad, because if human beings were managed based on their instincts, there would not be any kind of order.
Hubo una situación en la que me sentà muy incómoda, debido a ese temor al que dirán que está en mi cabeza, porque lo más seguro es que haya sido una novela sólo para mÃ.
Un amigo de muchos años, al que conozco desde la universidad, estaba de cumpleaños, era mediodÃa y yo iba saliendo desde mi trabajo a mi departamento y el se auto-invitó a ir a almorzar conmigo. Yo ya estaba casada, pero mi esposo vivÃa en otra ciudad.
Para evadirlo, le dije que no era buena idea, que yo no tenÃa comida para él y me dijo que no me preocupara, que él tenÃa su almuerzo, pero que como era su cumpleaños, no querÃa comer solo.
Me sentà en un dilema, porque en realidad no tenÃa nada de malo que él fuera a comer conmigo en casa, porque somos amigos, sin embargo, pensaba en lo feo que podÃa verse eso desde afuera. Por compasión quizás, asentÃ.
El tiempo que nos dan para comer es corto, asà que fue un almuerzo breve, sin embargo, sentÃa que estaba haciendo algo inapropiado, aunque mi pensamiento lógico me decÃa que no pasaba nada, mi pensamiento moralista me decÃa: ¿Qué pensarÃas tú si fuera tu esposo el que trae a una amiga a comer? Aunque siendo honesta, no es igual, yo confÃo más en mà que en él ðŸ¤.
En lo que vi a mi esposo ese fin de semana le conté lo sucedido y él no dijo nada, pero asumo que no debió gustarle.
Este es un caso en el que yo no estaba perjudicando a nadie y aún asà me sentà mal.
There was a situation in which I felt very uncomfortable, because of that fear of what people will say that is in my head, because most likely it was a novel just for me.
A friend of many years, whom I have known since college, was having a birthday, it was noon and I was on my way home from work to my apartment and he invited himself to have lunch with me. I was already married, but my husband lived in another city.
To avoid him, I told him that it was not a good idea, that I did not have food for him and he told me not to worry, that he had his lunch, but since it was his birthday, he did not want to eat alone.
I felt in a dilemma, because in reality there was nothing wrong with him going to eat with me at home, because we are friends, however, I thought about how ugly that could look from the outside. Out of compassion perhaps, I nodded.
The time they give us to eat is short, so it was a short lunch, however, I felt I was doing something inappropriate, although my logical thinking told me that nothing happened, my moralistic thinking told me: What would you think if it was your husband who brings a friend to eat? Although being honest, it's not the same, I trust me more than him ðŸ¤.
In what I saw my husband that weekend I told him what happened and he didn't say anything, but I assume he must not have liked it.
This is a case where I wasn't harming anyone and I still felt bad.
Mi madre siempre estaba pendiente del que dirán: No debes llegar tarde a casa, porque puedes parecer una libertina, no estés sola con un hombre porque la gente pensará que eres su amante, no digas lo que piensas, la gente se aprovechará de eso, tienes que comportarte como una mujer decente.
Creo que para muchos padres, no hay temor más grande a que su hija sea descalificada por la sociedad y los entiendo porque, como dije antes, las personas pueden hacer mucho daño.
Le agradezco sus enseñanzas, eso me hizo discreta y recatada, la parte incómoda, es que al medir lo que hago, disfruto menos.
Ahora que soy una mujer ya de 50 años, reconozco que mi comportamiento sigue regido por las enseñanzas de mi madre, como también sé, que debo respetarme y valorarme, que no debo dejar de hacer lo que sume a mi bienestar.
Siempre habrá quien te critique y quien opine, pero insisto, si no estás dañando a nadie, no deberÃa importar lo que otros piensen.
My mother was always worried about what people would say: don't come home late because you might look like a hussy, don't be alone with a man because people will think you are his mistress, don't say what you think, people will take advantage of that, you have to behave like a decent woman.
I think for many parents, there is no greater fear that their daughter will be disqualified by society and I understand them because, as I said before, people can do a lot of harm.
I thank you for your teachings, that made me discreet and demure, the uncomfortable part, is that by measuring what I do, I enjoy it less.
Now that I am a woman in my 50s, I recognize that my behavior is still governed by my mother's teachings, and I also know that I must respect and value myself, that I must not stop doing what adds to my well-being.
There will always be those who criticize you and those who give their opinion, but I insist, if you are not harming anyone, it should not matter what others think.
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