Long time didn't open my Facebook account , I'm a little bit shocked got private message from a stranger . I'm not someone who likes to interfere in other people's business, so I decided not to reply to his message. but curiosity continues to cling to my mind. finally I tried to stalk the account. and I discovered the fact that he married my high school friend two years ago and they divorced a few months ago.
I was very confused why he sent me a message, what relation to the problem he faced with me. then I tried to reply to his message, and got a lightning-fast reply. with a negative impression he replied my message with all the badness of my friend. I don't want to just believe it, I have to get clarification from my friend. I tried to call her but it wasn't connected, it looks like she changed her phone number.
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No matter how bad, she is a woman who was once part of his life. But, that's the way men are. they say, a man who is divorced will be more scathing about talking about the ugliness of his ex-wife even if he has to exaggerate. Not all, but some people do it. Maybe it's a form of revenge for their hurt. Rarely are there men who are willing to tell the chronology of their divorce well. If he tells the story as if his wife acts as an antagonist, I think as a man he should look in the mirror a lot. He is the leader, what woman will become in the hands of what kind of man.
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O GOD ,this problem is very disturbing my mind, as long as I know her, my friend is a wise and educated person. how could she fall into the world of prostitution as her ex-husband said. I have to find her and ask for clarification.
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Goddess of fortune sided with me, when I went to the hospital for a monthly check-up I was met by my friend's brother. I didn't tell him that his sister's ex-husband sent me a message on Facebook. I just asked about my friend and asked for her phone number.
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a day later I tried to call my friend, it's been a few years, we talk about a lot of things. and finally I mentioned the marriage, and it seemed like she had guessed the direction of my conversation.
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"I don't want to talk about this, it's too painful ... " She said .
I'm just silent, it looks like she was very hurt, I can feel the tone of her voice.
(I'm just silent)
"I'm happy now, I don't want to remember that nightmare. two years I married him he never wanted to work. I am looking for money to finance our lives. but instead of the award that I got, almost every day he scolded me with the reason I could not manage the house, not cooking for him. I often hear him gossiping with his friends about me. but I'm always silent. "
while holding back the crying she told me.
"after we got divorced he contacted some of my friends, and told bad things about me. " She continued her story
"Patience does not mean silence when getting unfair treatment, you must clarify immediately any gossip that was spread by your ex-husband." I'm tried to gave her an àdvice .
"I don't want any more business with him, so I'll leave it alone." She said , I can feel that . Her wound is so big .
"Alright, if that's your decision, I'm happy to hear that you're better now. hopefully as soon as you find a man who truly loves you and can respect you."
I said and ended the conversation.
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the answer from my friend was very elegant , not playing victim and she didn't tell me if I didn't mention it. very different from her ex-husband who spread gossip about his ex-wife to just anyone. if I were his future wife then he told me about the ugliness of his ex-wife, maybe I could accept it.
Uuugghh
Honestly I'm zero experience about the marriage thing (heeeeyyy I'm still single 😁).
but as a woman there are some things that I understand. a wife who dares to take over the duties of a husband, she is a strong woman and is committed to maintaining the integrity of her marriage. but however strong she is if she is always insulted and abused, she is not rewarded for the sacrifice she makes. slowly her strength will fade and surrender in the end.
a woman who was hurted when she made the decision to never play around, I could understand her position at the time. the destruction of a marriage is not accidental, many factors cause it. and there are many lessons we can take from their marriage story...
Eks is eks, they are just the past as a bridge to a better future.
everyone has the right to be happy with their choices.
#happy loving
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