The good thing about life is the change we make through every experience we encounter as we journey in life. Fifteen to twenty years ago are the years I could say that changed many expectations, dreams and decisions of my life. Twenty years ago were the years that seemed as if dreams never come through because those years were full of too much of a struggle as a young girl who hard so many expectations.
Even as s young mother fifteen, twenty years, I have this drive and will force to achieve a lot despite wanting to marry, have children early in life and move on with my dreams while seeing my children grow. Because just like in the days of our mothers, childbearing are believed to be something women do early in their lives so they can be strong and fit to train them with full energy.
I had so many plans and dreams, but it turned out that life is not what we expected it to be. It turned out that uncertainties of life is like a drama that will play out the way we never expected it. These are the unforeseen circumstances of journey of life that will surface and change those dreams and every expectations we have. The unexpected, the unplanned, these are the unforeseen
But frankly speaking, if my past fifteen to twenty years sees me now it will not believe what a woman 👩🏻 I turned out to become because my life changed and turned out great that even most of the dreams I gave up for others did brought great rewards. A woman 👩🏻 who want to achieve life by working in big organizations.
In the year 2005 I had my second daughter and was still with the zeal of working 9:00 to 5:00 🕔 to keep me moving with awareness since I have the dreams of furthering for my masters that will help me read International Relations as a course, but with time I began to realize that work and family are two things in life that can never go together if you must situation the children upbringing especially the girl child. This is when realities of life set in which made dreams and expectations changed.
And then I became a full mother for my children for many years not working, but just involving in other little income earning businesses as this enabled me had time for the family, seeing my girls growing and with faith that is the heart ♥️ beat of hope, I promised my self a come back once my children gets to some certain age in schools. These are the inward promises we make to ourselves that we must believe in and make sure it happens.
When I returned to the job market in 2015, things were not as expected but who expected things to be the same when change is the only thing constant, the economy of the Nigerian government already shaky with many things not in place. I decided to diversify with my Business Administration into some apartment services which gave ways to knowing how properties works but this also needs connections but only time takes you around through these kinds of work
And as the years went by with things constantly changing, I took interest to take a course in Property Management which channeled every of my dreams into something different. Life a constant challenge with struggles that are unpredictable. This shows us how decision making comes with happenings, places and stages of experience. But am so happy of the efforts I kept in bringing up my children to the stages they are now and where they are going. This I see as the greatest achievement.
In this past 2023, my younger daughter 
This is my response to the #hivelearners featured content for week 183, edition 02, tagged “WHO ARE YOU?”
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