I was scrolling through the media the other day while on a break when I came across an interesting video that a young lady made and shared with the world essentially. In this video, she began by dropping a screenshot of another video on a part of the screen, a different video entirely made by another woman who was confessing some really dark things that happened to her in her marriage.
The young lady that took the screenshot of the other video encouraged everyone else to go and watch and also really listen to what the young woman had to say before proceeding to give us an insight to what the video was all about.
From the caption of the video, I MARRIED A MONSTER on YouTube I knew that it was going to be a very sad story and it was. In the video, she was holding back tears while telling her story and I could see her still struggle to process the truth.
Watching that video made me sad for a lot of reasons. It really breaks my heart when other people decide to cause harm to other people behind their back, thinking they're never going to find out about it whilst pretending to love and adore them.
I have spoken on how people pretend to like each other in friendships and how terrible that always turns out to be. Unfortunately, it actually happens in relationships and marriages too.
Growing up, I was a firm believer in this grand idea of love and due to the Disney cartoons that I watched, Cinderella and the rest of them, I really believed so strongly that in the future, once I reached a certain age I would meet my Prince Charming and he would sweep me off my feet and we would live happily ever after.
Now that I am grown, I see just how much of a dreamer I was as a child and I am grateful too that I was able to let go of those dreams and focus on the real deal that is life.
Right now, I am wary of anyone who aspires to sweep me off my feet because it means that I will not have the chance to get to know who the person really is before committing and that just equals a troubling experience.
I do believe in love. I believe in the idea of constantly choosing to be with someone, to stand by someone for the rest of your life till death and I know that it can be a wonderful experience for both parties involved because in a world full of chaos, to find someone who is willing to genuinely wade through the chaos of this world with you without adding to it is almost like a blessing.
I do want that and I pray to have that just like everyone else.
But at what cost?
Will I have to go through very traumatic experiences before finding the right one?
Or do I just stay put?
Why should it be so difficult to find genuine care and sincerity in a person? It's not that hard to have good intentions when approaching someone with the purpose of courting them. Why do people always have some agenda when getting together with someone?
I have a lot of questions and I only hope that they can be answered.
After watching that video, I think a new fear has been unlocked and now I have something to look out for when relating with people, and my level of wariness just reached a new level.
After hearing stories like this, I cannot help but ask myself:
How does this go on?
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