Very interesting info on EMDR. I hadn't heard of that before. I have a gut feel that peace will come when the memories are replaced with better ones and time fades for me not to care as much. I try to equate it to a bad breakup with an ex. Sometimes something like that can take a few years to dissipate before it becomes completely irrelevant or inert. As most of this is from a family member, it definitely has a lot more gravity, but I'm trying to approach it the same way.