I'm pushing 60 now @steemmatt and my experience has been that neither the films inside my head nor the memories ever go away.

In time, however, I have learned to reframe them — with assistance from a really good therapist — in such a way that they feel less troubling and distressing. And maybe that's about the best we can hope for... I don't know, for sure. Part of my therapy included EMDR, which doesn't remove anything, but it helped me wrap a different framework around the trauma...